It is available, you just need to meet this requirement: Multiple-Entry Tourist Visa will only be granted to Lao nationals or those with proof of permanent residence in Laos.
No, not for the conversion into Non Immigrant O visa, than you just need minimum 400.000 Thb on a Thai Bank account on your name only and for the 1 year Extension of Stay based on being married to a Thai citizen it must be in a Thai bank account for at least 2 months prior application date.
If shared bank accounts you need the 400.000 Thb multiplied by nameholders bank account.
Please show us the rule change from 2 months prior application a minimum of 800.000 thb in a Thai bank account on your name until 3 months after approval of the Extension of Stay and the rest of the year not less than 400.000 Thb into as you try to tell us.
You wrote: "Unless they told you to show up in 90 days to prove you still have the 800k, you can move it immediately. You can even send it back to your home country." Which is against the rules. So please show us the police order with the changes.
You need at least 15 or 21 days left on your current permitted to stay period. As you mention the last day is May 20th and today is May 8, the count is 12. Nothing to do with the way you entered Thailand. Leave Thailand, come back with new Visa Exempt Entry for 30 days and go the next morning to the Immigration Office for the conversion.
IF you apply for a VISA outside Thailand (On line or Embassy) you can be asked to show money on ANY bank account.
IF you apply for a VISA inside Thailand or an Extension of Temporary Stay at an Immigration Office you can be asked to show money on a Thai Bank account on your name.
The difference is where you apply and who's requirements you need to follow, that is why correct terminoligy is important to give advice.
You need to talk with your employer and see IF they are able to convert your Visa Exempt Entry into a Non Immigrant B visa at Immigration or if you have to apply at a Thai Embassy.
Your friend need also to apply for a Non Immigrant B visa, or Smart Visa or the LTR visa as the ED visa is employment prohibited, which simply means not allowed to work while being inside Thailand.