Why do some members engage in bullying behavior online instead of offering constructive support?

Oct 24, 2024
20 days ago
Jermaine ******
ORIGINAL POSTER
If you all are here to insult people, what do you get from it? A little bit of fun to hurt somebody else?

Please, if you have nothing nice to say, just shut up.
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The post raises concerns about the prevalence of insulting and negative behavior within an online community, specifically among expats living in Thailand. It highlights how some members of the group resort to belittling others, possibly due to their own frustrations or issues. Active discussions reveal a divide between those who advocate for kindness and constructive dialogue versus those who engage in mocking or hurtful comments. Several users express their desire for a more supportive atmosphere, questioning the role of moderators in managing negativity and urging others to focus on positivity.
Todd *********
Awwww. Here is a better idea… work with your psychologist and take responsibility for your own emotions. Or just STFU Jerome
Henrik *****
Off topic
Deborah *******
They cant control themselves, because they are hiding behind a screen
Jo **********
Your post is rather disturbing you “If you all are here to insult people,” That’s very insulting as all people are not all here for that or doing that. Have you been taking lessons from Trump. What a terrible way to talk to people. look in the mirror
Ruth *******
Good old-fashioned bullying. Their best years were in middle school. They comment to get “likes” from equally mature members.
Paweł ************
If you do not like group sense of humor, jokes and how people post i give you solution - just leave a group.

Free speech is more important than your personal feelings.
Joel *******
And what are you here for? Not to ask any questions related to Thailand or visas, but just to complain about other people's conduct and tell them to shut up.

Please consider that maybe you're part of the problem here!
Terary **********
That wasn't very nice!
Joe *********
Why do other peoples words hurt you so much? You don’t even know them???
Steven *********
It is a challenge to write about negative or judgemental/demeaning posters without sounding the same. My personal belief is that I not better than anyone else. I do not want to react in kind to someone who is speaking in an unkind way. Often my initial response to such posts is a strong negative emotion. For me, I have learned that is a time for simple silence. A te to let the negative energy pass until I can get to a place of hoping the upset person can find caness and joy as part of a meditative wish. Then I can experience gratitude for all of the good and kind and helpful people in this group and not get distracted by the ments of negativity. This is just a path I have found that helps me. I do wish to thank all of the consistently kind and helpful people in this group.
John *********
🥤🍿👀
Kevin ***********
I agree with you
Dan ********
Haters are gonna hate, it’s what they do …. Non haters will never understand it.
Eddie ********
These loosers n bullies who can only belittle n bully should be banned its that simple. Do we need them??? NO
Scott *********
I agree. There is quite a few losers in here and I just block them.
Nick *******
Haha, who rattled your cage? Don't fall off your bar stool now.
Marvin *******
Hit dogs are indeed hollering!
Tyler *******
You can blame the admins for not managing the group very well. Zero community management pretty much
Robin ********
Oh pull your pantys up you big girls blouse
Tohksic ******
"Jermaine"...the name says it all lol
Alex ************
These subs are full of boomers whose adult children no longer talk to them, they're here in a last ditch effort to buy some semblance of happiness and in a desperate attempt to find self importance, act like edgy 14 year olds online.
Eddie ********
@Alex ***********
I totally agree with you.
Patrick ********
Want to have a happy and peaceful life in Thailand? Avoid other Farangs, embrace Thai culture and make local Thai friends.
Carlos *********
Let's all just get along. There are always haters who are going to hate. Brush them off and move on. Stop fussing and fighting please🙏

Some people think they are funny, it's the internet, you have to weed through everything to make a good decision. Everyone's in a battle and we need each other's support. I appreciate and thank everyone who has helped me in this group and belive it is over all, the best!
Samuel ********
I’ve found this group to be an invaluable resource during the past couple years I’ve lived here, helping me stay informed.

However, I’m not a fan of people who show no initiative and ask questions that could easily be answered with a quick Google search. I just scroll past those and look for what I need.

But constant complaining is really just annoying. Like gosh it’s like someone just discovered they live in a community with diverse opinions for the first time in their life. It’s like driving on the road mate… good drivers and asshole drivers.
Brian **************
Well Sam, I guess you are the Great Arbiter of what is appropriate or not

Maybe you should create your own group with your own rules mate!

You can be the asshat you protest
Eddie ********
@Samuel *******
Give me one good reason why i should google when there is a group with experience minus the A holes who are willing to help with first hand info.
Samuel ********
@Eddie *******
If you’ve taken the time to understand your problem, you can ask a clear question and get better answers faster. This can save you time and make things move along quicker.

On the other hand, if you ask a vague question, you’ll get a vague answer and might end up asking the same thing again weeks later, missing the chance to solve the problem sooner.
Steve **********
These are the same people that infiltrate the Thai Insult Advice page with questions about visas.
Jack ******
Jermaine, as a digital creator you need to channel your aggressiveness into more socially acceptable patterns of behaviour. Once you become an adult you may be able to appreciate that honey garners more appealing results than vinegar.
Brian **************
I see you are the arbitrator

Maybe you should shut up
Martin *********
To many sad boring idiots on some of the pattaya bassed websites
Keith ************
I use the block function liberally.
Stuart ***********
@Keith ***********
I do too, you quickly get an idea of who is helpful and who is just a waste of time reading, so I just block the latter!
Chris *****
I understand your post. Good and bad people are everywhere. That’s just the world we live in 🙏🏻✌🏻
Alan ******
That's not nice, telling people to SHUT UP!!!!!!! Fkin nob
Carey *********
So true, thanks for addressing it.
David **********
Ignore the a holes. Sometimes you have to have a little fun. Sometimes it’s just fun to take a poke.

You know those posts about, I’m in Uruguay, want to stay in Uruguay, need contacts in Uruguay” and they post it in Thailand Visa Advice.

My response would be, “Join a different group”. 😳
Randy ******
THE MODS PUT ME IN GROUP JAIL FOR FIGHTING WITH MEAN UNHELPFUL PEOPLE IN THIS GROUP … SAD !
David ***
Agreed and you can see exactly who they are. If you open the emojis and look at those laughing…? Those are the pathetic scumbags in this group. So sad.
Dave **********
@Jermaine *****
sorry your recent Immagration/fine post did not get sympathy you felt it deserved.
Michael ******
People come here to escape their problems, not realizing they are the problem. Hate and bullying are in vogue. Today’s “too cool for school” laugh emoters are an example:
Chris ******
Some of these cultures now able to travel and interact overseas are comical.
Greg ******
That was not very nice.
Greg ******
The irony of this post…
Todd *********
@Greg *****
dude is absolutely whack.
Jermaine ******
ORIGINAL POSTER
Okay everybody, I’m literally saying keep your mean comments to yourself. There’s no need to insult others. But so many people took this opportunity to start being mean 😂.Seriously, just be nice and friendly! Is it that hard?
Jo **********
@Jermaine *****
stop being hyper sensitive understand people are different and be open minded
Jordi ********
@Jermaine *****
Is this your first time on the internet Jermaine 🤣. Sorry mate, people are not nice online.
Braulio *********
@Jermaine *****
Just go away.,..
Lena *******
@Jermaine *****
I totally understand how you feel. Many of your assertions have a basis however the confirmation bias of the group you're talking to won't allow them to see it. We live in a divided world my friend, in all sorts of ways.
James *********
@Lena ******
Agree,,,, to a point. When she called out some folks for bad behavior, she did Exactly the same thing by calling them "old hags", thereby, IMHO, cutting her own argument's legs off.
Pui *****
@Lena ******
did you read his other post where he insulted old people and was upset at people for calling him out? That's why people are reacting as they are to this new post from him.
Lena *******
@Pui ****
Poor guy had been attacked by people who wait like sharks on this thread. I've seen it time and time again. I'm old but I know what he meant. There are a lot of older, bitter people who just have nothing better to do.
Joseph ****
@Pui ****
I'm old, but I didn't take his other post, personally. I took it as directed at the kind of troll who has nothing better to do than show up on these forums and comment with derision when someone seeks advice or information. A large portion of expats here do happen to be boomers. That said, younger guys can be jerks just as easily
Joseph ****
By the way, OP, did you ever clarify if you're a guy or a gal? Help me out on that.
Dieter *******
If one take ANYTHING serious at social media, is a foolish. Social media is a fairytale. Nothing real.
Sam ******
Maybe you should take your own advice 😂
Todd *********
@Sam *****
he never thought of that…
Jermaine ******
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@Sam *****
never insulted anybody
Wayne *********
Is calling people old hags classified as an insult?
Todd *********
@Wayne ********
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@Jermaine *****
is simply to stupid to understand the irony here lol.
Jermaine ******
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@Wayne ********
they are what they are 🤷🏻‍♀️. Defending themselves could mean they admit to it
Wayne *********
@Jermaine *****
I am not defending them, but you make insults judging people then complain about others making insults. I agree can be some unnecessary comments but best to ignore than lower yourself to insult them.
Sone ********
@Wayne ********
listen to yourself. You’re arguing with someone half your age, who has half your experience and half your social fortitude. There’s no point to it here (besides the obvious entertainment value) just like there’s no point to it on Reddit when this shyte flares up on there. The “do unto others” golden rule jazz is going to die with our generation, mate. Cheers.
Mic *****
Don't be so mean, about being mean ...
Jermaine ******
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@Mic ****
if I’m nice about being mean, I’ll be stepped all over by the mean people. But then again, if I’m mean about being mean, I’m still stepped all over. You’ll never be right to those who think they are perfect!
Jo **********
@Jermaine *****
Your post is rather disturbing you “If you all are here to insult people,” That’s very insulting as all people are not all here for that or doing that. Have you been taking lessons from Trump. What a terrible way to talk to people. look in the mirror
Jack ****************
Word
LD ********
I'm over this group. It's not constructive at all. Just a bunch of hateful assholes. Bye
Ian **********
LD Fannon Yeah clear off and stop calling people nasty names 😂🤣
Todd *********
LD Fannon beat it!!!!
Tom ********
LD Fannon No need to announce your departure, it's not an Airport!
Stephen *******
LD Fannon I think it's quite funny don't listen to to them
Ruth *******
@Stephen ******
it’s a waste of time and energy
JB ******
Keyboard cowboys who have nothing better to do.. but just remember that this is a screen & what people say on this screen should be taken with a pinch of salt & not seriously. Brush them off and carry on with your day
Ruth *******
@JB *****
but I waste time reading their crap before knowing it’s crap. I don’t like wasting my time.
Lena *******
@JB *****
On the other hand, I have a policy that I would not write what I would not say to someone's face. It's a good policy.
JB ******
@Lena ******
that’s good for you. Treat people how you wish to be treated but not everyone is like this and they get a kick/energy from being negative
Lena *******
Well that's the lens they look through and I'm sure it repays them. Thank you for your comment.
Randy ********
They were bullied in school. This is their chance to be keyboard warriors and their chance to bully people back. When this happens I've learned to block them. I don't have to see their 💩 anymore.
Ruth *******
@Randy *******
nah. They were the bullies and those were their glory days. They want to relive them.
Jermaine ******
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@Randy *******
you blocked half of this group? Hahaha too many
Randy ********
@Jermaine *****
pretty much and still blocking. I get more information off people that want to help in this group then the bullies.
Jermaine ******
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@Randy *******
they’re not bullies in their term. They think of themselves as perfect. Superior. Better than the world!
Todd *********
@Jermaine *****
again with clueless irony
William **************
Keyboard pirates think they have power. They only have power if you let them as all they want is attention.
Javier ***********
Moderators please moderate ?
Jermaine ******
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@Javier **********
what’s so wrong with a post like this though? -just curious why you think it shouldn’t be posted
Linhof *********
@Jermaine *****
I think he is agreeing with you 👍
Javier ***********
@Jermaine *****
This is what I’m talking about
Jermaine ******
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@Javier **********
hahaha well. Our moderators are too busy I guess.
Javier ***********
@Jermaine *****
There is nothing wrong with the post. Completely the opposite.

I only mentioned that the person who created this group should take into consideration that people who write offensive posts to people who seek info do not deserve to be here. Therefore should be banned. Flip through some of the posts and you’ll realize the conversation is more like an argument in a kindergarten playground instead of a constructive,polite adult conversation.
Todd *********
@Jermaine *****
makes you sound like a holier than thou jerk off with no understanding of the concept of irony. It’s funny stuff really. Carry on
Jermaine ******
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@Javier **********
maybe moderators feel the same as me. Maybe they too want to stop the insults.
Javier ***********
@Jermaine *****
Moderators or administrators obligation to expel unruly members
Kitty *******
@Javier **********
obligation?! Clearly you don’t moderate on any groups.
Javier ***********
So what’s the use of having an administrator or moderator in a group that wishes to avoid unruly members.
Kitty *******
@Javier **********
Funnily enough, many of us have other priorities, you know, like working, socialising, living our lives. We do it as a favour!
Javier ***********
@Kitty ******
This is what I’m talking about
Linhof *********
@Javier **********
Yep, I run a few groups, if I get some negative attitude, I just delete them, no words spoken 👍
Brian ********
Amen
Don *****
These low brow bullies go unchecked in the group. Remember, for some Thailand is a last stop destination after burning all bridges back home. There are losers among us. Never forget.
Linhof *********
@Don ****
seems to be all Thai groups
Ruth *******
@Linhof ********
yup. I think miserable people left their homes and thought Thailand would cure all their ills. Instead, they brought their misery and feel a need to bring others down. They don’t know that bringing people up rises us all.
Linhof *********
@Ruth ******
yep, luckily I don't come across them in daily life
Dave *********
@Linhof ********
me neither, I keep away from other farang, especially the ones who think they know it all but haven’t even lived in the real Thailand, just the tourist traps because they can’t integrate here.
Linhof *********
@Dave ********
yep. I stay away from expat areas too, except for the occasional need for some western food 😄
Dave *********
@Linhof ********
I really don’t get why you’d move here and want to live like you’re back in your home country that you left because you didn’t want to be there anymore 🤷🏽‍♂️ I went back to the UK for a few months and absolutely hated every day there. I’m back here now and hope I don’t need to leave ever again.
Linhof *********
@Dave ********
yep. I had been coming for 30+ years before finally moving here. I enjoy getting Thai smiles every day I go for a walk in the the neighborhood. Rarely see any foreigners.
Dave *********
@Linhof ********
it beats the western scowl doesn’t it 😂
Linhof *********
@Dave ********
Yep, and I am from the states, Oboy, what an utter embarrassment.
Dave *********
@Linhof ********
The UK is equally as messed up nowadays. When I went back at the end of July it struck me just how bad it’s become. I couldn’t help but feel depressed being there.
Garrett ***********
@Don ****
This, is correct
Todd *********
Did you consider taking your own advice before typing?
Inigo *********
@Todd ********
mate you look like this guy. Sit down
Matt ******
@Todd ********
you need a bit of a touch up don't ya bud
Gary **********
Todd *********
@Gary *********
only one T you simpleton
Gary **********
Todd *********
Paul ******
@Todd ********
and still smarter than you 🤡
Todd *********
@Paul *****
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 yes Paul 😂😂😂😂
Braulio *********
@Todd ********
Pretty odd to post such a hostile comment. Jai yen, Mr. Jermaine.
Pui *****
@Braulio ********
did you read his other post where he insulted old people and was upset at people for calling him out? That's why people are reacting as they are to this new post from him.
Todd *********
@Braulio ********
pretty odd to post an inane comment telling everyone to do as you say or ‘shut up’ isn’t it Braulio? Or is that something ‘you needed to hear’ because you are intellectually incapable of making your own decisions..
Jeff *******
@Todd ********
Haha! I see you're making new friends. Tell them how much money you have.
Todd *********
@Jeff ******
$50. You?
Paul ******
@Todd ********
your the reason this shit happens and you must have the last word
Todd *********
@Paul *****
you’re.
Matt ******
Paul ******
Jermaine ******
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@Paul *****
lol don’t entertain him. Nothing else to win about, now he’s onto our English😂.

I mean, I would assume he’s perfect in every way and never made a mistake in his life!
Paul ******
@Jermaine *****
i hate these idiots who think there above everyone else just a sour old man from Canada
Tore *********
@Paul *****
did you see OPs previous post? He managed to be offensive in both last two posts he did l, and then comes complaining people are offensive 😅
Jermaine ******
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@Todd ********
no, I’ve just had had enough of the uncalled for insults. What in my last sentence is so insulting? Please elaborate
Don ******
@Todd ********
His post spoke in general about ppl who insult others and have no manners.

He did not specify anyone.

Only someone who perpetrates the very things he spoke of could take offense.

🤔
Jermaine ******
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@Don *****
okay I figured. You’re one of the insulters in defence mode.
Don ******
@Jermaine *****
No, read my reply again.

It was in defense of ur post.
Eric ******
@Don *****
and Here is where the problem starts, lol. People don't READ thoroughly before commenting. Although if you're going to comment at all, why say something, negative, derogatory and stupid...except when I call those people jackasses in the comments😁. I don't get it. I've been tempted to reply on one of the 'how much should I bring for a week...", but I've learned to just scroll on. Funny, but when I read the post, I thought uh oh, here they come! But he wasn't wrong. Unfortunately, the major perpetrators probably won't heed the advice.
Todd *********
@Don *****
did you feel you needed some internet lifestyle advice today Don? If so, it’s your lucky day. Just ask Jermaine. He will tell you what to do
Matt ******
@Todd ********
why are you such a jerk? Is that why you moved to Thailand? To flee the enemies from home ?
Don ******
@Todd ********
His post was accurate.

Common courtesy and manners are always important.
Jermaine ******
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@Don *****
oops apologies about that. Thought he was asking me, which was confusing
Don ******
@Jermaine *****
He was being sly with u, it wasn’t an honest question.
Don *****
@Todd ********
see right here this is the type of shit he’s talking about. Loser comments from men who aren’t nearly as bold in person. We don’t need it. Save it.
Jermaine ******
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@Todd ********
first of all, it’s not an advice.

2nd of all, I never insulted anybody
Tore *********
@Jermaine *****
yes you did in both this post and your previous post…..
Todd *********
@Tore ********
he just doesn’t get it.
Nigel **************
Andries **********
Remove such figures
Penny *****
Yes, it is odd how some want to belittle others and have a go.... Maybe they are bored 🤔
Nigel **************
@Penny ****
Limited Intelligence
Jermaine ******
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@Nigel *************
ignorant maybe.
Malcolm *********
@Jermaine *****
why say that - it's not nice. Why say anything at all.
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