What are the challenges and considerations for a foreign man wanting to marry a Thai woman and bring her to the UK?

Is your life better with her

Is hers better with you

That's all that matters !

Many comments from jaded men. Many from happy men.

Choosing a partner should be done very carefully and certainly from above your waist!

Some men get this, some men don’t. I think similar in any country, not just Thailand.

I love my Thai wife. She’s a university trained nurse, now a senior ICU nurse.

She’s proudly Thai and helps to educate me with all cultural traditions associated with Thailand.

We are both very happy❤️

Quote a famous movie :-

“Choose wisely”

Hmmmm😉

Bro. There are 30 years difference between you two. Just accept the obvious and if you are both fine with it, just enjoy the ride and wish you the best.

Beware. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Girlfriend visas are notoriously hard to get, btwl.

Sure she’s different bro

Just one Question, Why would you even be thinking of taking someone you hardly know to go and live in the UK , Have you tried living in Thailand for a while first, what makes you think she will even like the UK which increasingly is becoming a dump.

Thai woman are no different to women everywhere. Especially if you get out of the touristy areas like Bangkok, Pattya and Phucket. There are good and bad woman. Good and bad men. That's life. Not all will see you as an atm, some will. Be cautious, visit her, see what happens. If it's worth pursuing you'll know, but it takes time, like any relationship.

I married a Thai about 20 years ago, still married but many things changed! Family’s #1! Period! Take care of family 1st, worry about you later! Budda rules over you also. She is a good lady but changed over the years. Could happen to any nationality though, not just putting down Thais.

Online. How many other guys she speak to just now ? Bet you are not the only one. One born everyday. Maybe it's your turn today

You’ll find out

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The only way you will get her to uk is on a dingy from france ! I tried twice to get my gf a visa and couldn't get it !

Not "all"... But "most of"...

We all accept this mindset (or not) but it's a fact, bro🤗

Listen there are good and bad women and men in all countries. As English man I can tell you that forever in time many English women have been money motivated and beautiful younger women have dated and married ugly older guys who just happened to be rich. Is there any difference really between certain Thais and other nationality women??!! . Thailand is criticised for its prostitucion, like that doesnt exist in European countries !!!

I personally know a guy who has been dating a Thai women for 10 years and she is smart, intelligent and beautiful and probably spends more money on him than he does on her. She is a CEO of her own company , so you see its all about the quality of the person and their morals and needs.

Not all are, just 99.99 % are. Rich thai chick with farlang. Like unicorns. I heard they exist but never seen one.

I'm your age au and was in the same delimer 8 years ago. My sister told me. it's your life do what you want if it doesn't work out. Move on. Just make sure your both happy. Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life or spend your money..by the way. I'm now single living in bkk and don't have any regrets

You say you're not gullable but then try & tell us you know someone only from online but you know for certain they aren't like the others, you can only truly know someone's intentions when you know they're whole physical form & real life personality, digital isn't real life

I find the post humorous, not because of the context but rather the content, specifically the sentiment that the OP isn't gullible and can spot a scam a mile away. I'm pretty sure everyone that has ever been scammed in personal or business dealings felt the same way until they didnt....

Everyone has to live trough their own experiences, also regarding the foreigner /Thai relationship. Don't matter if 50 guys say "my Thai wife is genuine" or 50 other guys say "my Thai wife was a scammer" as there is nothing carved in stone. Best way is an open mind, and take it from there. You never win in any lottery if you don't buy a ticket. Don't spend more then you can afford to loose is a good way of thinking about it.

One word: prenup

Naive

There are good and bad in all

I have experienced the bad where my ex she expected me to pay for everything even though she was working a quite decent job.

I have a Thai girlfriend now is the complete opposite we share costs 50- 50

Some times I pay and some times she pays .

I have even had her get annoyed at me for trying to pay for something when she wanted to pay .

Take each person differently

If it does not feel right

Then it is not right

You say you’re not naïve, but you can’t even spell the word… I’m not sure if naïve fits or there is a more compelling synonym, but my good sir, the mere fact that you are in a room filled with people with masses more experience than you in a very specific arena and you are scolding them and rejecting their input, so certain that you know what is what… That is folly, youthful arrogance, and willful ignorance… Not naïveté , not by a longshot.

Pride goeth before a downfall and this is exactly what you are about to experience. She is no doubt playing to your pride and vanity, an arrogant man is an easy mark- I was young once 👀 😂

I am by no means, and I’m sure many here or not either, besmirching the Thai people (if I can use that word in this context?) 🤔 the fact of the matter is that you cannot in your wildest dreams, conceive the weight of being responsible for taking care of multiple generations of your family in a climate of extreme poverty. Within the context of the society structure, how could I look down upon them!? But you really need to get square with that and understand that yes, there can be genuine, lovely people, and ALSO they are under immense pressure. We think we understand, but we cannot. Simply cannot. No frame of reference.

You could marry a lovely woman who would be nice and kind and faithful all your life. This does not mean she is unclear that she needs to marry into means. What’s lucky for you? Is that even if you are low on the totem pole financially, in the UK you are still a man of means to her. No one here that I have noticed has said they only want you for your money. That demonizes them. This is not about morality, it’s about survival and a lack of options. She may like you well enough and marry you but the money makes all the difference in the world for them- they aren’t overlooking that- because they can’t. We all want happiness, and for each other but let’s not pretend there isn’t a huge power imbalance.

Dont forget

I been living

In Thailand for 12 year

I see what kind of people comming here Looking for Love….thai are very kind

People. But due to that it’s comming so many falang here for a long time. And 80% of them been

People that can’t find a Ladie in their own country

80% are very bad behavier so

Pls don’t think every thai like foringer.

And ofcause

Maybe 20-30% of thai that are in tourist area are maybe not the nicest

Thai lady. But they have been treeted very bad by the falangs here

Many with alcoholic problem. Bad behavior. They can’t adept to thai

Coulture.

I have seen much more bad falang here then i see bad thai lady…

🙏

Nothing wrong with getting involved with a younger Thai woman, I've been married to a Thai girl for 8 years and we have a fantastic marriage. However, I'd recommend you just be smart & watch for red flags. Asking for money is typically the first & most common.

71 and 30 here. She's Vietnamese however, not that it matters much. We met online just before covid. I visited Saigon as literally obe of the last before it shut down. We forged a bond that remained unbroken during a 2 year freeze. We have since spent 4 months a year together, traveling SE Asia, mostly in Thailand. A year ago we got married. There's a US spouse visa in progress, although tbh neither she nor I would mind not living in the awful US. She is the most loyal female I've ever known, and, as you can imagine, I've known a lot of American women. Asians don't seem to care a lot about age gaps. These relationships are common. The only ones who cluck their tongues about it are usually older women who are jealous and feel they should be in her place.

I was introduced to my Fiancee by a friend who did a yoga course where she was managing the welcome centre office, so not an online dating app.

I am 61 and she is 53.

After talking via whatsapp for 6 months, I have been to see her several times and lived with her for between 30 and 50 days each time and we have gotten on like a house on fire. She has made it clear that she wanted no money from me (in fact if i spent too much she would end it), she paid for some stuff we did together without telling me.

For me, she is doing this for genuine reasons. We will look to marry in Thailand and then after a few months get ready to move her to the UK. While I can meet the financials for that, and show the relationship is genuine, one criterion she has stated is that she wants to work and not rely on my finances.

30 year difference in age... she definitely loves you for real 😎

There are some great gals out there. You just need to take care. Understand too the culture is very different. That said I got lucky you can too. All the best!

99% are. Thais prefer Thais.

You would find it very difficult to obtain a visa for any Thai lady to come to UK, to live, very difficult even for a short holiday, too much red tape, takes months of preparation and a helluva lot of paperwork involved. If anything you go Thailand and check out yourself for real. If all else fails tell your lady to jump in a boat and do what other people do she will get a house fone and free money from the UK government bcoz doing it legit doesn't work.

71 and 41 I would say one and done! 30 years is not necessarily the point at all, it is the fact you don't understand - the culture is what everyone here is trying to tell you . . . If you are from the UK it is understood by that reason alone that you are the super star . . . Oh you will find out, it's not a horror story but if your support ever has to be cut off for whatever in life happens, so will the relationship and that's the fact you cannot dispute!

Perhaps you're right and things are different for you. Still worth doing your due diligence before making rash decisions. The stakes are very high, and catastrophic to your life if you get it wrong. How many broken men do you think had the same thoughts in their heads before learning the hard way?

Some material for your own edification There's hundreds more stories like this on the one channel alone. Good Luck:

There are a lot of good stories and a lot of bad stories of life in Thailand as for me I couldn’t be happier been with my wife for 15 years in Australia and moving back to Thailand permanently next year it’s what you make of it a lot of foreigners don’t treat their wives/ girlfriend’s respect and love and there are some sad stories out there but good luck and wish you well I am sure you will be happy

Don’t listen to the negative comments. I married a Thai woman 35, no 36 years ago. We live half the year in Thailand and the other half in another country.

Be wise, look before you leap in everything

Online relationships aren't real in any country, you have to meet, spend time together and see, in real life it won't be the same as online

Why want her move to expensive UK? Why don't you move thailand? Far cheaper, better weather and visa so easy.? Who's idea her move to UK?

I met my Thai wife online 14 years ago and we're still very happy together. We have always lived in the US, but are considering moving to Thailand. However, she is not in the US because she prefers to be here; she's only here because of me. If I should die, she would be back in Thailand immediately to stay, taking my ashes with her. Don't make any assumptions or generalizations. I can attest that some Thai women have no motive other than love.

Oye mate, sorry people were shitty about it. However, tread softly. I am VERY well versed in this subject through: I married a Thai and through her I see the antics of friends and family. It is a much more subtle issue than most people give it credit for.

Sounds like you need Dr. Phil

There are a lot of sad, pathetic, jaded alcohol fueled Neanderthals on most of these groups. Dismiss the BS and listen to the constructive feedback.

Was there a question here?

Not everyone typecasts people. But fact is that many relationships between Thais and foreigners are in fact transactional. That doesn't take away from the relationship, it is just a cultural difference and acceptance and it doesn't apply to all. It's just one of many forms intercultural relationships can take.

It's not always about scaming, but many Thai ladies don't earn alot of money and have commitments to look after thier mother or family so there is an expectation that her partner will make a contribution to that cause, which can lead to "scams: in some cases. Just don't rush things.

It's a 5 year visa journey to the UK for her, if you get married and want her permanently residing with British Residence Card (BRC) and meet the financials.

Otherwise a 6 month visit visa every year, if the visa rules are not broken and financials are met.

I brought my then Thai GF over for the summer months, then visited her during our winter months.

We got married here and went down the 5 year residency route so she could work, pay taxes etc. But we are now both heading to Thailand as UK has lost its way a bit and forecasts are not favourable unless you love paying taxes!

First of all, I don’t mean this with any disrespect. just offering a bit of perspective. You have to ask yourself: why would someone 30 years younger be genuinely attracted to someone significantly older? This isn’t aimed at you personally, it’s a general observation. It’s not about being cynical, just realistic. That kind of age gap often runs counter to typical human nature.

You’ve said you’re not gullible, and I respect that. But it’s worth remembering that some women are very, very skilled at playing the long game. They can come across as patient, affectionate, and sincere, sometimes for even months or even years before revealing other motives.

That said, there absolutely are genuine ones, and I sincerely hope the woman you’re speaking to is one of them. Still, trust is something that’s earned over time. It’s always wise to move forward with caution

Go there live with her for over a month

Agreed. The ex-pats who have chosen to live in such a beautiful place, yet hold an over-arching stereotype about Thai women, are a disgrace.

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