Show us the proof that you can NOT get a 1 year Extension of Stay after you got a 60 day Extension of Stay based on visiting Thai family.
I understand your story as the Extension of Stay "60 day friends and family Extension" does not exist and therefore can not be issued.
It is a common practice when the foreigner did not have time enough to deposit his money into his account, to gain extra time, first the 60 days based on visiting Thai family than the 1 year.
So first you tell "Ï've tried" than it becomes you have different info from friends to end with you have this info straight from the Immigration.
As you switch every time to make a point, I would say share this direct information from Immigration, the Police Order as that is the only correct way.
Not I have tried, i hear from friends or I talked with the cleaner of the office and now I tell you the law changed.
At entry into Thailand during the visa validity you get a 365 days of Admitted to stay OR until the last day of your health insurance, which ever comes first.
So be aware that you have at least a 1 year valid insurance if you want to re-enter Thailand during the visa validity.
At arriving at an address you need to report that stay at that address at the local Immigration Office, your hotel or land lord may do this but discuss this with them.
IF you stay 90 days consecutive inside Thailand you need to report this at your local Immigration Office.
No, as in every country, police officers are allowed to make a decision. This decision can be made based on amount of applications, usage of time, distance to people to visit and many other factors.
That YOU did not get visited does not mean that it does not happen in your area, or that that part of the law is not valid in your area.
Most of the time, during the Under Consideration period is a house visit.
All your documents are in order as your application is accepted, it can go wrong if during the house visit the conclusion is that you are living alone, there is no wife and the marriage is not de jure and de facto.
If you are living together with your wife, than it will all go smoothly and no problems.