A lot depends on the day and the person who's line you are in. I've had one bad experience and otherwise 100% positive experience entering the country. The one bad experience was a lady (maybe the same one who you dealt with) who basically just yelled at me for staying too long, she pulled over a supervisor who told her it was fine and to let me through, she stamped my passport and then as I walked away yelled "don't stay so long next time!"
yeah, I'm pretty sure the boyfriend status was a big factor in their failing, but since he couldn't be bothered to answer me I don't really know.
I was using soft language to avoid internet fighting - there is definitely no spouse visiting flavor of visa. I believe we've done ALL the things that can tip things in our favour, but there will still be a lottery element I am sure.
Married with husband living full time in Thailand, money, land, traveled out of the country and returned multiple times, etc... we will see.
hmmm well we are already married and I don't think there is an option to keep that secret given that it's all over the application. I also don't think USA has a visitor marriage visa only the immigration one which we don't need as we are not, and will absolutely never, move there.