You have never gotten a tourist visa for 90 days. You may have had a Non immigrant O for 90 days or had a tourist visa for 60 days and extended to 90 days.
You’ve definitely got some wires crossed here. A tourist visa would get you a stamp for 60 days although I suspect you didn’t have a visa and got stamped in for free for 60 days. Either way you can get a 30 day extension at a local immigration office.
You can apply for a Non O visa based off of being married to a Thai national prior to coming (and get 90 days on arrival) or most offices can convert a visa exempt entry (or tourist visa) to an in country Non O - but check yours can - some can’t.
An entry stamp for a visa exempt entry is for 60 days, not 30
Why not look into the DTV visa under the soft power options. My guess is Muay Thai won’t be an option but Thai cooking or medical appointments could work for them.
It’s a 5 year visa and on each entry they’d get 180 days.
Some people have managed to do just that. Enter prior to an approval and then border bouncers to activate the visa once approved.
However some have had their application rejected because they are no longer in the country of application. That may be because they were called in for and interview or just seen that they were no longer there.
Like I said all entries are up to the discretion of the individual immigration officer you hand your passport to. There is no “god given right” to enter Thailand - even if you have an actual visa. It’s up to them to decide.