Your question doesn't really make sense. Being married in and of itself doesn't mean anything. You need a visa that allows you to live in Thailand if you want to move. One way to qualify for a visa is to be married to a Thai, but there are many other things involved, including proof of funds and such
the ONLY thing e-visa changes about the visa application process is the application method. Everything else is the same. Pretend you applied in-person because it's the exact same. You would still need to be in the country the entire time your in-person application was processing and would need to be in the country to receive your completed visa.
Your experience from 25 years ago, or even 1 year ago make no difference. Things have changed drastically, and now they won't even look at you if you're on a tourist visa or visa exempt.