Don't listen to all the negativity. Lots of useless idiot trolls. Research, make a plan and build your house together like many of us have done. The keys are love, honesty, commitment and hard work.
11 years ago my now wife built a house on land provided by her father.. I supplied the money for our 127 m2 3 bed, 3 bath house in Udon. She did an amazing job..The house and land is all in her name. If I ever were to lose this, pffft, I don't care one iota. The main thing is love and trust, and we have that in spades. People will tell you, contract this and contract that, keep separate accounts, don't trust her, blah, blah, blah. If you love her and she loves you, just go for it. Look forward and not back. Trust her, trust yourself.
There are some very insecure people, usually men, who love to slam others using the anonymity of posting online. Real creeps. It boosts their egos to (try to) denigrate others.
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