@Brandon *********

what!? The baby was already born in Thailand in the story 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Don *****

this person‘s behavior is common in this group. Maybe not average, but common.

I don’t know if reports matter to admin, but yes, a community can only stay healthy through self policing. Don’t you love being in a group that advertises advice and then when people come, obviously needing advice, the members of the group immediately humiliate the person. It’s Bizzarro world in here.

I’m so sorry! This is so stressful in a time that is supposed to be joyful. It sounds trite to say it

but good luck. This is so awful.

@Jermaine *****

it’s an internalized result of being colonized along with the US indoctrinating the world that they are the greatest - people aspire to go there and when whole societies make leaving to go to the ‘greatest place’ it’s goal,

it loses its creativity, ability and drive to make their own country/neighborhood, great. Empire destroys your country, then subsidizes you- a few generations pass and people die off and forget and think the colonizer is kind because they’re helping them. It’s forgotten that things are effed up because of the one who is now ‘the helper’- your Uncle Sam.

There’s a list of things that people internalize that make no sense- oppressing themselves. It sucks. 😔

This ‘woke’ comment by me will only cause me to be a target here but idgaf. If you’re genuinely asking, here’s a place to start

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@Jermaine *****

some of that reason is because they are treated as tho they are, in SEA- which causes them to want to stay and more of them to want to come here 🤣 it’s a vicious circle.

@Patrick *******

I’ve seen people be completely humble and polite, and still be eviscerated. To say it was idiotic is to suggest that if he asked nicely, he would be treated nicely and we all know that is not true. And you for sure know! 👀 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Jermaine *****

if they did, they were subtle about it,

I didn’t see it. Maybe setting me up to gaslight me? To be honest,

I don’t care. I’ve been in Southeast Asia a long time and it’s FILLED with gatekeepers and 99% of them are old and/or white men that were quite mediocre in their place of origin but now they are some sort of demigod and they love to lord it over other travelers. Boring and predictable.

@Jermaine *****

it doesn’t slow them down. Serial abusers will always tell the victim they need to have manners. 🙄

This kind of behavior on social media is just the grossest hobby ever. Jesus.

@Jim **********

you saying this to me isn’t even related to what I said? I don’t know you- maybe you have a guilty conscience or feel defensive 👀 😂

I didn’t at all suggest that asking clarifying questions is mean.

For sure it can be frustrating when people seem to not know even basic things yet they’re out here trotting about the planet blissfully ignorant… But if I feel like I wanna make that remark to them out loud, I step away. It is frustrating when they don’t include enough information because obviously they’re an inexperienced traveler and don’t know what matters -and so yeah, we have to ask extra questions. But asking questions doesn’t have to feel like you’re punching someone in the gut? That sort of unkindness is just another form of gatekeeping and it really gets old.