You’ve obviously declared more than maybe you should have, if they are asking for proof of Thai house/partners ID etc. Just apply for a normal 60 day tourist visa without the trimmings, and you should find the process far simpler. Either that, or 30 day visa exempt and convert to 3 month O once here.
I watched one of her tales a few years ago that talked about ordering draft beer which made you ‘keen ya’ - stingy. To this day I’ve never met a waiter who knows what ‘sod’ - draft - means.