not all all surprised you got denied after 3 visa exempt entries with extensions each time, and staying out of the country only a few weeks. They are really cracking down hard on this type of stay history.
I think part of why people are reacting harshly is that your whole tone about the laws of Thailand somehow forcing you to take serious risks with your health, which implies that Thailand is somehow inhumane and more difficult than other countries, so it is correct to compare it to the USA and many other countries that would be equally, if not more difficult, for someone in your situation. Perhaps you didn't mean it that way, but it sounds like you are accusing Thailand of being overly strict rather than easier than most countries for getting extensions.
do you know how frequently people who don't know better will cite wrong info from Thaiembassy, the website that Siam Legal operates that countless people have mistaken thinking it is a government website? Many of these Facebook Thailand travel and visa advice groups are filled with comments from moderators and frequent contributors correcting people about wrong info on that site. Do you know that for something like a year after there was no longer a Covid era insurance requirement to enter Thailand, that site kept saying it was required and linking people to their affiliated insurance provider to buy the "required for entry" Covid insurance?
your analogy is irrelevant as you keep using examples from other countries. Thailand's immigration clearly defines visa on arrival and visa exempt entry as two different entry schemes that are unrelated. Visa on arrival requires someone to apply for and pay for a visa upon arrival which grants a 15 day visa that cannot be extended. Visa exempt entry is a free entry without being granted a visa that gives 60 days and can be extended for a further 30 days. How can you possibly equate these two totally different entry schemes?
I am not sure the APEC card alone allows me to continue to perform the duties as a director of a Thai company, as I am not sure that banks and other institutions that frequently copy your current Non-B visa will see any relevance to the APEC card. The issue is how frequently I come and go, so that the annual extension has been impractical due to the processing time required to stay in the country to get that visa & extension.
FYI, I am director of a Thai company, and this seems to have been adequate to issue me the Non-B for business (not employment) in past years. A few years ago, the HK consulate said that the multiple entry version was no longer allowed except for company directors and therefore not to put employment or show my work permit as the reason for applying for a multi-entry version, and it has continued to be granted to me on that basis including via e-visa the last 2 years.
it's for business purpose as director of a company, although I have a work permit, I was told years ago to give the purpose of the visa as to attend meetings, audit files, and handle other duties as director, rather than based on having a work permit, and they have granted it to me for the past 10 years.