have a marriage than let your Thai wife introduce you. Depending on immigration office they will not issue visa on the marriage date itself, generally marriage visa stands test of time, unless at time of marriage, your wife is verified pregnant. Do the visa yourself, not that difficult admin work the wife in future's assistance
My own experience, they tend to follow the rules as officers' files at immigration are audited by federal. It be foolish for any officer to sacrifice their career prospects for something obviously detectable by the auditors.
What are you needing to cone to terms with, every humans these days exploit in some way unless you seclude into caves and jungles. There is always that hope of fulfilling their ego centric self, exception, the ones that already reach high maturity and accept what their lives is to be, in which case, they attained and resolve into modesty and humbleness. You will need to find this lot of individuals. You just need to select whom you wish to transact with.
You sure is you Tod writing this precipe? No need to bother with irritants Tod, just write to the Bangkok governor personally by Thailand Post on letter, direct him to this link of net mongers and let the computer crime division deal with them, likely take 6 months on their watch before you get a total sweep acknowledgement on news, do identify to him the group as you refer, if you know them or have netizens look out for you, there are only a handful of netizen who are community minded as yourself and in chiang mai, I could only name Shayne next to you, two persons ingrained in my mind, so really, this outreach I suppose is to have netizens look out for you , you may reach out in pm should you require assistances. Personally I too experience short visit travelling irritants as well, could be just a cycle somehow bringing these irritants amongst us to remind ourselves how much we do appreciate appreciative behaviours to come into Thailand, ride it out if you can, they soon disappear to their own toxicity when they dun get a reaction. Ps jealous and deprived persons cannot be fixed, just can eradicate. Let the team that specialises and equipped help after helping many others