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What are the pros and cons of returning to Thailand with my son after a divorce in the UK?

Dec 26, 2024
2 months ago
David **********
ORIGINAL POSTER
INTERESTING ONE - UK guy married to Thai National in Thailand. Pre-nup made to secure my assets before married. Child together born in Thailand. I have Original Birth Certificate with bothr parents names on. Moved to UK, now divorced in UK. Child now 13yrs, full custody with me. Ex wife still here in UK. Thailand Coutt presumably wont know we divorced. Pro's and Cons please if I decided to return with the Boy for holiday or to live. ? UPDATE - HAVE ADDED EXTRA DETAILS IN A REPLY TO A POST ON THIS MATTER.
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A UK national, who is divorced but has custody of his Thai-born son, is considering returning to Thailand for a holiday or to live. Concerns have been raised about the implications of Thai courts potentially not recognizing the UK divorce and custody arrangements, as well as possible complications arising from the ex-wife's ability to challenge custody in Thailand. Commenters suggest consulting with a Thai lawyer to navigate these legal complexities, considering the best interests of the child, and weighing options for travel while avoiding legal disputes.
Wendy *********
Don’t got back to Thailand
Michael ********
My mate did marriage visa like that for years, ex wife was still in UK and by a total funny fluke was renting one of his houses through an agency 555
SJ *******
Best to go post op rather than pre nup. Hurts less.
Robin ********
Has she got her own cash . Then if not I'd be wary of her taking the kid and wanting money for you to visit .
Matt *******
Why dun you save all the issues And return to Thai when the boy is 16 plus 1 day. In my recollection from immigration, he is considered an adult and liable to overstay fines, hence, any challenges will be at the consent of your son. Just my thoughts for your considerations
Frank **********
Right, wrong, win lose… if your ex or her family petitions the court, you have to deal with it. Dealing with it means time and money and a chance that your ability to travel with your child is hindered. I personally would not take the risk, but if you do, obtain the services of a law firm that specializes in UK and Thai family law before making the decision.

I would also suggest that you pick a nearby country if your plan is to get your child time with the Thai side of the family. Surely it will cost less to fly them to you in KL or Ho Chi Minh than it would be to deal with a year of court proceedings in Bangkok. Good luck.
Mohit **********************
Apply for a divorce in Thailand too. You wont be able to marry someone for a year then you’re free to marry.
Ian *********
I had to register my marriage in the Uk or they wouldn’t recognise it. I had to divorce in Thailand at my local amphur.
คริส ************
@Ian ********
how did you register in the UK? I was told that my marriage in Thailand was official and immigration didn't have a problem for my wife's spouse visa. I'm just interested.

Regards
Ian *********
@คริส ***********
I registered the marriage with the uk embassy if I remember correctly as I needed to register my daughter as well for British citizenship
คริส ************
@Ian ********
ah yes. I did that bit in Bangkok at the British embassy. Have a great Christmas
Ian *********
@คริส ***********
you too and all the best for 2025
David **********
Better get a lawyer son.

Get a real good one.
Juls ******
Depend the girl, potentialy dangerous.
Nate ******
Go to Vietnam 🇻🇳.
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@Nate *****
not the same vibe at all.
James ************
Holiday no problem. To live, she could make it a problem i don't know the law, but I would highly suggest contacting a thai lawyer.
Matthew *******
How about you speak to a legal expert and not the Facebook experts
Chizel *******
Maybe enter on the UK passports for a holiday
Us *****
I totally understand that the UK is a horrible place to live and you want to be back in Thailand. However, your boy is only 13, and you don't want him to be educated in Thailand. It is more expensive and he'll pick up all the bad habits from the Thais. Just wait until he is in Uni before you come back.
Martin *********
@Us ****
I don’t think he said the UK is a horrible place to live. I split my time between the UK and Thailand . The UK apart from the weather is a fantastic place to live .
Us *****
@Martin ********
I've been to the UK about 8 times and it gets worse and worse each time. I had it the last time when they added a service charge at the restaurants. The UK has the 2nd most exodus of millionaires for a reason. It is a horrible place to live.
Martin *********
@Us ****
service charge on restaurant bills. You’ve obviously never travelled to the US Canada ,Oz most of Europe etc. Also what do you mean second most exodus of millionaires? Which country is the first most? Are your statements factual and evidence based or do you just make them up? I understand this is social media and people can just say what they want .
Us *****
@Martin ********
lol, I'm from Los Angeles, I know all about service charge. I just don't expect it from the Brits. China is number one in the amount of millionaires leaving. England is number 2. I know it it hard to believe, but it is true.
Martin *********
@Us ****
you do realise many people in the UK over 50 ,who own their own house have a private or company pension and saved investments would be millionaires. I’m not planning to leave UK when I retire, but I do intend to spend the winter years in warmer climates. 
Us *****
@Martin ********
half of my family lives in England and I spent my summers there while I was on break from university. I know all about the people in England. You might be the lucky ones that own a house, have a company pension, and investments. Thus, you have dedicated half of it to support the lazy ones that refuses to work and benefit from the social programs. If you have the money, spending it in England is not the best idea. The taxes, weather, economic instability, and political reasons are why people are leaving England. It is no longer an ideal destination.
Aaron ******
This is two questions.

1. A family one

Aka do you believe she would try to cause issues

And

2. A legal one.

If there is no worry about the first especially with the age of the child I would not worry that much about the legal side.

If there is I personally wouldn’t enter Thailand with the child. But if I had to I would talk to Thai lawyers.

Point being that if there is no risk why worry and if there is why even bother with the risk till the child is 18?
Raed ****
i know a friend had the same problem and his wife was so smart even when she signed all the legal papers to give full custody to the father ( Australian ) when they arrive to Thailand with thier children ,, the frist thing she did is she went to the court and she block her children passport ( 2 girls and a boy with Australian passport ) and now they still fighting for the custody in Bangkok 💔💔
Lyndon ************
Have you considered the Thai national service implications for your child?
Martin *********
The boy is 13 and he resides with you. That’s fine. At that age the family law courts in the UK (and I’m sure it’s anywhere) give a lot of attention to the child’s wishes on which parent he/she wishes to reside with. The boy will be 16 in less than three years. I would hope he has good contact with his mother also. So your Thai ex-wife lives in the UK and you are thinking of moving with the boy to Thailand? You would want to make sure you give your son the best upbringing and the best education wherever you live, whether it be the UK or Thailand.  (Your assets or prenuptial are irrelevant here.)
David **********
ORIGINAL POSTER
@Martin ********
You have to present your pre-nup to the Village Register Dffices BEFORE the Marrisge application papers. We did same day. Pre-nup was stamped by Office FIRST. Stating if divorce I keep everything I owned previous BUT everything split
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any money made after marriage. Heads up !!!! Pre-nup did not carry power in UK and had settle for a loss of some savings. BOTTOM LINE. - Got used for the 5 year wait for her Citizenship and UK Passport then she was OFF with the child. Over the 5yrs, found she was stealing money from our home and sending to an account in Thailand via Western Union. Cpurts ordered her " Not fit and proper to take care of her child" I didnt want get married in the first place but UK Home Office got involved. Maybe best bet - Don't go back Thailand eith the kid. Ex wife wants him but cant have him here. Prefers money and work, rather than see the child. Stayed with me now 6 years.
Doug ********
What happens is that if she brings any case to court in Thailand, she wins, you lose. Your UK documents notwithstanding.
Joseph *******
IMO, this would be risky. I’m not a lawyer, but I know Thai courts nearly always side with Thai wife over farang. Should your wife follow you back to Thailand & challenge your claim in a Thai court, you’re probably going to lose. Also, though I’m sure your ex is not like this, many if not most disillusioned wives & exes have Thai family that can make you disappear.
Daniel *****
@Joseph ******
no, Thai courts are obligated to follow the law.
Michael ********
@Daniel ****
, if you lack an understanding of how the legal system works, you should refrain from commenting. It is disrespectful, especially considering the seriousness of the situation.

I outlined the specific Thai laws governing this matter, provided links to legal resources in Thailand, and detailed six scenarios illustrating what could go wrong.

Tldr:

The wife can file a baseless petition and have the father & childs passport seized while a court case is pending.

If the Thai court has not been properly informed, they retain the right to:

1.) Protect their own Thai national, "the child."

2.) Review the information & ensure that, from their perspective, the child’s best interests are fully considered.

One argument could be that the family’s current instability due to the child being separated from the mother necessitates prioritising the child’s stability, which may involve remaining with the mother.

Scroll up if you would like to read my full detailed explanation and analysis.
Daniel *****
@Michael *******
Actually, I'm reasonably familiar with how the system works and have only stated that Thai courts are obligated to follow the law. While your analysis sounds reasonable, particularly the first line, I'd also choose to follow the advice of my esteemed Thai solicitor and suggest others do the same.
Michael ********
@Daniel ****
I 100% agree. "Seek the advice of a Thai solicitor"

As you mentioned, "Thai courts are obligated to follow the law" Which also implies; Thai law will take precedence over any foreign state laws when the individual in question is a Thai national.

The same principle applies to us when we travel overseas.

For example, if one were to engage in pedo shit in a country where such acts might not be explicitly illegal, however... there are still significant consequences.

If Australia becomes aware of these actions and we return to Aus, we would likely face prosecution & imprisonment even if a foreign court acquitted the person. Your own nation retains the right to prosecute or protect you as they see fit.

*Many nations have strong double jeopardy laws, but this is often irrelevant if they deem the crime too serious & your a risk to society.
Joseph *******
@Daniel ****
You have no clue, Daniel. This reply is only for the benefit of those reading your reply. I won't argue with you further.
Daniel *****
@Joseph ******
Ok, I won't argue with an imbecile.
Dave **********
@Joseph ******
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Joseph *******
@Dave *********
Not sure why you’re sending me this link. My comments were based on what happens or can happen in Thailand, regardless of UK or any other country’s laws.
Giovanni *************
@Joseph ******
hello joseph what does it mean when you wrote:must disillusioned wives & exes have family that can make you disappear?
Joseph *******
@Giovanni ************
Typo. I meant “most.”
Xjwhudkwhry ********
@Giovanni ************
it means there's violent thugs in every Thai family
Michael ********
You need to consult a Thai Law firm not FB.

Thailand may not automatically recognise your UK divorce and custody arrangements unless it's also registered and or acknowledged in a Thai court. (This you need to do if you want a safe return to Thailand)

Your ex-wife can challenge custody in a Thai court, which could restrict you & your sons travel making things... become further complicated if the court views decisions under Thai law differently.

Reputable law firms in Thailand which you can consult, they also often offer free Consultations with one of their Associates.

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Radost **************************
@Michael *******
this is bullshit, if you are divorced in the UK and you have custody for the child, Thai court can't overrule this dissision or any other court in other countries. And there is no problem traveling with the kid as he is the legal father even he wouldn't be divorced he can travel.
Michael ********
We see and hear situations all the time, with the police and legal systems around the world. The individual who contacts the police first and provides the most information is often the one believed.

Therefore, it is advisable to ensure that all relevant facts are documented in Thailand while the child is still a minor, to mitigate the risk of any retaliatory action by the mother.

I presume David has a strong and clear case; however, individuals can still cause significant difficulties by filing a petition in court before your side has been heard. It is, therefore, prudent to present your case to a Thai famliy law firm, in order to pre-emptively safeguard against such scenarios.
Michael ********
Recommendations
@David *********
Would best Preemptively take Action.

Notify Thai authorities of the custody arrangement and divorce to prevent surprise legal actions.

Consult with a Thai family lawyer for guidance on local laws and processes.

Documentation:

Gather and present evidence supporting your capability and rights as a custodian.

Address potential claims from the mother proactively.

Legal Representation:

Retain a Thai family lawyer experienced in cross-jurisdictional custody cases.
Michael ********
Legal Provisions in the CCC

Section 1566 (6):

Parental power includes managing the child's residence and movement. Courts can intervene to protect the child’s welfare.

Section 1520:

In divorce cases, courts can overrule & decide custody and impose conditions, including travel restrictions, to ensure the child's best interests.
Michael ********
Legal Considerations &Scenarios

Best Interests of the Child:

The Civil and Commercial Code (CCC) and the Child Protection Act require that custody decisions be made with the child's welfare as the primary consideration.

Example:

If the mother presents evidence that the father is unfit (e.g., due to neglect, abuse, or substance misuse), the Thai court may reassess custody arrangements, regardless of existing foreign rulings.

Thai National Priority:

If the child is a Thai national, protecting their welfare within Thailand becomes the court's responsibility.

===== Scenarios Where Thai Courts can assert their jurisdiction =====

1.) Welfare Concerns about the fathers Care

Even if claims are fabricated, the legal process could result in delays and require the father to address them in court. (Thai Court has the power to seize passports during proceedings)

Suggested Action:

Pre-emptively consult a Thai law firm before travelling to ensure proper documentation is provided to Thai authorities.

2.)Parental Rights Violation:

The mother could argue that her parental rights were violated in the UK, appealing to Thai courts for custody reassessment.

3.)Jurisdiction Over The Thai Nationals:

If the child spends extended periods in Thailand, Thai courts may assert primary jurisdiction. Foreign rulings can be deemed irrelevant.

4.) Non-Participation in Hague Convention:

- Thailand is not a signatory to the Hague Convention. (and many other international legal agreements)

- The mother can initiate a case if she can prove shared custody or that the child was removed without her consent.

5.) Equal Parental Rights Under Thai Law:

The mother can argue she was deprived of her legal rights as a parent.

6.) Emergency Custody Petitions:

Filing an emergency petition highlighting the above arguments could lead to immediate restrictions, such as surrendering passports and imposing travel bans.
Michael ********
Sources:

Civil and Commercial Code (CCC):

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Child Protection Act B.E. 2546 (2003):

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Summary of Custody Laws in Thailand:

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Further Reading on Thai Laws:

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Michael ********
These are the two dominant legal Frameworks Governing this scenario:

1. Civil and Commercial Code (CCC), Book V, Title II (Family Law):

Governs parental power, custody, and child welfare provisions.

2. Child Protection Act B.E. 2546 (2003):

Aims to safeguard children, particularly those at risk of abuse or neglect.

Both laws relate to child custody cases involving Thai nationals. They emphasise the child's best interests, which take precedence over rulings from foreign jurisdictions.
Michael ********
@radost

Are you stating it's bullshit that the Thai court has the ability to override a foreign ruling?

Or are you expressing disbelief because you are unfamiliar with Thai laws or have not read them?

I implore you to refrain from making unhelpful comments, especially during a serious matter. Dismissing these concerns with disrespect undermines the gravity David's situation and fails to acknowledge Thailand's rigorous approach to family law and child protection. Thai courts prioritise the welfare of Thai nationals, regardless of foreign rulings.

I'll go through the laws & cite the codes, laws & scenarios which can be played out below.
John *********
Marrying in Thailand is legally bonding in UK and you can get a divorce in UK no problem
Michael ********
@John ********
His asking as this scenario is where international legal "loop holes" & differing views in certain aspects of the law arise.
Gaius *********
@David *********
Why did you divorced in the first place? Explain to us
Tim *********
@Gaius ********
Irrelevant and untrusive
Tom *********
@Gaius ********
what a strange question.
Jason ******
@Gaius ********
😂 don't be a gossip,that's none of your business and their private life 😜
Mike *************
@Gaius ********
She put 4 chillies in his Som Tam when he only likes 3.
Mick ********
@Mike ************
well that's reason enough
Martin *********
@Gaius ********
irrelevant here. He’s asking for Visa/ immigration advice not marriage advice. 
Mark ********
@Gaius ********
Why do you need to know?
Mark ********
Why do you need to know?? Its none of your/our business whey they divorced. Dont just send me an angry face! Explain!
Mark *********
@Mark *******
I think you missed the humour in his question
John *****
How could you marriage register in Thailand and divorced in the UK? Don’t you need to marry and divorce in the same jurisdiction?
Ian **********
@John ****
no. I married in Thailand and divorced in the uk.it affects her but not you or the kid. My ex was left property. If she died it would go to me. So we went to the Tambon office and I signed a dicument allowing her to bequeath to our son.
Andrew ********
@Kim ********
He's not wrong. I was married in Thailand and when we moved to the UK all we had to do was show the Thai Marriage Certificate to prove we were married.
Kim *********
@Andrew *******
yes show it and it's accepted - just like in my country - but he said without doing anything and that's wrong. It isn't automatic like it would have been if you didn't have to do anything
Bruce ***********
Dave **********
@John ****
NO you don't need to return to divorce
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Matthew *******
Aaron ******
@John ****
location of marriage has nothing to do with if a location will allow you to divorce and in general countries recognize the marriages and divorces of each other.
Kim *********
@Aaron *****
if they are told about it which they are not
Alma ***************
@Aaron *****
true..same as in Canada..divorce is allowed no matter where you got married
Marc ********
@John ****
most likely he married in Thailand and got the marriage legalized in the UK trough embassy for instance
Kim *********
@Clarke ****
you know that for sure? Where I come from the authorities have no idea about a Thai marriage if I don't register it myself. And Thai authorities don't give information about a divorce to other countries. I think you are wrong
Kim *********
@Clarke ****
yes which you must show - so without doing anything isn't correct in my world
Paul ***********
@John ****
nope... As long as you have marriage certificates 👍
Bradley *********
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