That's not possible if he wants them to be on a legal permission to stay and to be able to get subsequent extensions. The 800k needs to be in the account 2 months before applying for the 12 month extension then for 3 months after the extension is granted and never fall below 400k for the rest of the year.
The OP asked for a 30 day extension and was told the right answer, cannot have one. Going back and asking for a 60 day Visit Thai Family extension while accompanied by his wife and with the correct documentation (assuming the marriage is registered in Thailand) will get a different response.
This has never been possible since a conversion from a tourist entry stamp to a Non-O based on retirement requires a Thai bank account with 800k (this is not just a requirement for the extension)
Agreed, enter on a Non-O, open a bank account and transfer 800k, get a re-entry permit for your Vietnam trip and, on your return to Thailand and after your 800k has seasoned for 2 months, apply for your 12 month extension then get a re-entry permit when your 12 months is inked in for your return later next year.