Ask yourself, is chilling for a few days in S.E. Asia somewhere such a burden that you need to give yourself headaches and possible refusal, which then jeopardises your 'legitimate' emty. If you haven't got peace of mind , you haven't got anything.
it's good advice. But when you say 60k, what do you mean? She needs $60,000 in her account? Why that much? Surely with $3000 , if the couple spilt, she can be self sufficient for a couple of weeks and get a flight back.