One thing to try is to visit other countries that may be easier to get a visa. Ie have her passport show a travel history and returns. Better if with you, providing copies of joint travel entry and exit stamps.
With current administration in USA the process will be even more restrictive if that's possible.
was talking about flying to another country. You're only showed 30 days recent in Mexico. When you apply for a visa for longer stay, state department gets notified.
This discussion is about government payment when raising our if country, not a walk to Tijuana.
You're probably okay because you have a 12 month visa. Make sure your son files the tm-30 each time you return to stay with him. You can most likely get a residency certificate from that tm-30 but probably good too have him write a letter that you are staying with him long term. Immigration like documentation...
Take all that with you too the bank. Dress reasonably and act professionally and if you don't get an account at the first bank, try another. Use the main branches in the town you're living in.
A certificate of residence is issued by immigration. Bring 1 passport photo, copies of your passport bio and visa pages and a copy of your lease agreement.