you can do only online if you did 90 days before ... you need to report to CW Immigration by mail. Make sure to be on time. sent all docs as requested (same you go in person and copy of your passports) and an self addressed envelope with EMS stamps to them. I recommend you go once in person and after you do it online :-)
there is no 30days tourist visa on arrival - you talk about a 30days visa excemption - and inside the country you can extens that 30 days for 1900 thb. - u need to show flyonward within 30days period, as you dont have a 60 days tourist visa - might be better to apply for that
1) yes you can - 2) in Thailand nothing is guaranteed but yes usually u get it and its not a problem - .... wondering why you been asking for a second extension?!