the only small difference in my understanding but could be crucial depending on who you bank with overseas, us that for the Marriage visa ( unlike retirement ) is that there's no stipulation where the funds are from.
surely you married for love. And because it maybe different to what other countries do doesn't make it wrong or not normal. As for rights well in pretty much every society at the end of the day the "Wife" wears the trousers and the husband gets what she allows him to have........555