This is really like the Thai Visa Forum from 20 years ago. Filled with a bunch of sad old men yelling follow the rules, suffer the consequences, don’t come back. Depressing.
lots of Thai women hand wash for their kids. But you can buy a second hand washing machine if you don’t want to. You can find a place with a thai kitchen easily, especially if you don’t want to live in the center of Bkk. You can rent a place with a washing machine and western kitchen easily if you have the money. You probably only want to like in Bkk city center if you have a good job in an international school. If you live somewhere like Chiangmai Mai you can rent a house. Lots of teachers im international schools get jobs before they move to Thailand so it’s worth applying from over seas.