the non-o retirement dependant visa is not available at most embassies any longer, UNLESS the primary has an OA. Most embassies would allow her to apply, some may ask for local residence. It will require some legwork.Most critical is his visa first.
You have to your non-o based on being over 50 and then an extension in country with 800k in the bank etc., or embassy income proof(not available to all Nationality).
The next problem is she will have difficulty obtaining a non-o "retirement" dependant visa.
No surrounding embassies will issue one and cannot be done in Thailand.
The last embassy I heard that would issue one was Australia but I am cannot say if it would today.
This path may not work.
The path that can work is if you are to obtain an OA 1yr visa and then she can apply for non-o and receive a "dependant" visa.
All must be done outside Thailand at the embassy level.
The OA requires mandatory health insurance, medical and criminal checks.
Once in country she would extend up to 1yr based on your OA visa.
With strategic exits and entries you can drag it almost 2 years.
You will need to put 800k or qualify for income to extend in country and then maintain her dependant status.
This sounds complicated but is not just takes time and organization.
You will need to be out of country and use an embassy to facilitate both visas. She cannot apply till you have yours.
it's an interesting solution to the gender roles played out in traditional marriage requirements. As is well known if the husband is Thai a female requires no money and the reverse the male needs it. It will be interesting to see how it evolves in the long-term.
it would appear that this is a same sex couple in this case, the money has to be proven by 1 of the spouses. Not necessarily the foreigner. So as long as 1 has the money to prove as per the the rules, should be no problem. As always every office will have their own interpretation, check there first.