U can call the US Embassy n let them know that u n your gf both be flying america for someone's medical emergency n provide the proof perhaps they can expedite your waiting time for an interview
It's 60 days on arrival n another extension of 30 days only not another 60 days.total for the year is 180 days allowed for the visa free exempt countries
Checked with space union visa n thai visa center in bangkok n I was told just come on a normal non immigrant visa 60 days on arrival n contact them to open a bank of Bangok account n deposit $800,000baht in your name n let them process your retirement visa.i heard the money needs to be in your account for 2 months meanwhile get another 30 days extension on your visa n by then u will hve your retirement visa approved