You will not be able to use a monthly income method for the first year. During that first year you will also deposit 65,000 baht minimum each and every month into a Thai bank account. You must follow all the financial requirements of the initial year plus do the monthly deposits and in the following year you can apply using the monthly income method.
The visa also has the Thai soft power scheme which includes Muay Thai training, some cultural events, seminars, and medical treatment You may qualify under that category. One extension per entry is possible although the extension process is pretty much the same as the original application and even maybe more difficult because now you're dealing with immigration and not the MFA so the recommended route is to border bounce for another 180 days. Plenty of articles videos etc on the internet to explain the visa. Dedicated Facebook group Destination Thailand Visa (DTV) click to join
If one person, or 20,000 people are allowed to do it, why couldn't your spouse? The visa doesn't grant special privileges, it just identifies the reason for the visit.
Do not state the nature of the business, just the fact you work for the company in software development, your work is remote, you will not interact with any Thai companies or individuals. You'll need an employment certificate specifying those 3 points.
You apply at the immigration office that has jurisdiction over where your TM30 is filed so you won't be doing anything in Bangkok if you live in Lampu, possibly what they meant was that they send it to Bangkok for approval.