back in an old life, I worked for immigration. There are so many scams going on, it's unbelievable. There is an awful lot of human trafficking in every country.
I don't understand the paranoia of a 5-10 minute meeting without the spouse to be such a big deal. The spouse isn't the one asking for a visa, the petitioner is.
Demanding access to ever facet of government is not a right, in any country. The whiney boy person from my country throwing a tantrum is both sad and hilarious.
What is a "real" marriage? That's not the point at all. But, you seem to know everything about everything, so why did you even bother asking a question?