He wasn't talking about any of that. I suggest you reread his initial response that the government is so bad and that he deserves better. That was my only point.
He doubled down later.
There is a lot going on with the embassies, and it's also a problem for Americans in other countries getting services also.
My point was that everyone has to do something, and that meetings don't include the American sponsor. Period.
My attitude was simply directed at his asshat comments that the rules shouldn't apply to him.
back in an old life, I worked for immigration. There are so many scams going on, it's unbelievable. There is an awful lot of human trafficking in every country.
I don't understand the paranoia of a 5-10 minute meeting without the spouse to be such a big deal. The spouse isn't the one asking for a visa, the petitioner is.
Demanding access to ever facet of government is not a right, in any country. The whiney boy person from my country throwing a tantrum is both sad and hilarious.
What is a "real" marriage? That's not the point at all. But, you seem to know everything about everything, so why did you even bother asking a question?