unless the mother and father were married at the time of the childs birth, the father has, by law, absolutely no obligation to support the child. But he also has no rights towards the child.
Everything is up to the mother.
Is it morally great?
No.
But it is the law here in Thailand and there is no consequence to him stopping the pay to the mother. And honestly, if the mother does not let the child go to see the fathers family, I think it is halfway justified.
If you use a online booking service like 12Go Asia, you can usually choose seats. And sometimes there are seats with amazing legroom for this short trip.
Tuktuks will very willingly take you to the bus station at Nong Khai, where you will find a bus to Udon Thani for sure.
But there are probably taxis too. I did not really pay attention to them though. I was headed for my bus and got jumped by eager tuktuk drivers that may have overpriced my journey just a smidge.