@David **********

no thank you. 🙂‍↔️ nope.

@Ruth ******

I’ve lived in Thailand and Vietnam both for extended periods of time- I suppose it is a bit worse in, Thailand but it’s just so ick.

@David **********

so bad your explanation it is the victims who should dodge the bullets rather than the drunks not be invited to bring their guns?

Because it’s worse this is ok? What a standard.

Groups are only like this in Thailand and Vietnam. It’s ridiculous.

@Ruth ******

indeed the desperate and silly attempts to normalize this behavior is embarrassing.

@Ken **********

indeed he has been helpful- 💯! but leadership would suggest keeping the knives out to a minimum and trying to create a peaceful group. I am shocked and disappointed but not… this was exactly the answer to OPs question ‘why is it like this?’ - well

@ ***************

y, because it’s allowed and now it’s received an empathetic stamp of approval. Cuz there’s a good reason to be rude. Wah. 🙄

@Stefani *******

I felt the same way. OP asked and he explained- thereby clarifying to the ones that participate in this behavior, that it’s understandable and they need not worry about curbing their urges to eviscerate someone coming for exactly what the name says. It says advice it doesn’t say specifics, it doesn’t say advice after you’ve reached a certain level of knowledge - people sometimes don’t know what advice they need ffs!!

And I admin 3 groups- most people don’t know how to find the rules in a group or that groups have a search bar.

@Ruth ******

thank you. The string of explanations basically justifying belittling people is exactly what I expected to see. A prescribed amount of empathy? That’s why the world is like this. Absolute strangers coming to a place for exactly what the name invites them for doesn’t require empathy and no one is some humanitarian sharing advice in such a place 🤦🏻‍♀️ the rationalizing probably goes on for the rest of the 100 comments. I expected nothing less. This OP isn’t the first person to suggest it’s not necessary to insult and humiliate strangers, but this is SEA in a nutshell. The majority of western men are mediocre where they came from and elevated here and then they act like this.

It will really destroy your hope if you’re not careful 😔 I don’t have a prescribed amount of empathy’… that’s the silliest thing I’ve heard today. we have an endless supply, but not near as much as we do childish, mean arrogance. 😔

@Brandon ***********

but the school will maintain them as working til dec 20. I understand legalities and that playing by the rules is usually the best thing but also a have lived in SEA for a long time. This school can’t keep its own story straight. They aren’t going to harm her. They’re just crap. This is the gamble eyes wide open but as always I value your input.

By the time I had posted I got a lot more details. Weighing everything out, the odds are in their favor.

I’ve suggested checking with an agent for a consult as well. One said this is a reasonable choice and the other will weigh in tomorrow

Thank you

@Brandon ***********

oh gosh I thought this was my post but it’s someone else’s- I’m being rude 🙈