What should I do if my Thai wife wants a divorce after 15 years of marriage and I have a Thai daughter?

When a woman has her mind made up there is no going back. I have been in your situation. Be glad you have a wonderful relationship with your daughter and stay positive 😊. Don't fight but be wise in the Divorce. Good luck with it.

If You are outside Thailand, go to an embassy and apply for a tourist visa for come to Thailand. When arrived in Thailand, go to a serious visa agency and they will tell you what to do.

Many will tell you to do things yourself , but with your current situation, it's best to use an agent like Thai Visa Ctr. They will take care of everything, and I mean everything so you won't have one more worry on your mind it's not cheap but it totally removes all the hassles of the visa issues . I used them and I will still give them a 5 * for all their assistance. Try them , you won't regret it. By the way , I am not paid in any form or money recommending then to you . It's just that there are many fake agencies who do it for cheap but you will find that out when you re-enter Thailand only to be stopped at ICA .

For starters get a 30 day extension at the Immigration office a week before your 60 days expires. If you have 800,000 baht in your bank, go immediately to a Visa Agent who will organise your O Retirement Visa from Thailand.

You need a lawyer....PERIOD. You will not get proper advice here, only opinions and ridicule.

Leave again quickly 😅

Just use her as a tax deduction ution until you figure it out

Treat your situation as 2 separate issues. Marriage/divorce is complicated. Then decide which visa can you qualify without a marriage visa. Marriage/divorce issue can last a few years & until your child is of a legal age. I've been there-done that. You will do ok..just be sure you want what is best for your child, even if it means you have to be decent with the mother of your child.

First ask her one thing

Do you (….be friends🤫❣️👅) an other man

And yes she will

If you leave the country for so long time (2years) she will do to find money thats thailand .....

ox long term visa 10,000 bhat 5 years no boarder runs. That amount is doing it yourself. 65,000 bhat verified monthly income or 0 in Thai bank. Sorry for your loss.

You want my advice?

* Marie a women of your age.

* If you marry someone. It means you want to live together. Not 2 years without visiting her. Guess you got what you have planted.

Anyway. Goodluck

Married for 15 years but never got her English lessons, haven't seen her for 2 years or your daughter? Don't even have food you enjoy together? Why did you even marry in the first place. If you wanted to stay with her why would you leave her alone for 2 years?

Try Thai Visa Centre in Bangkok. They offer free advice on LINE. They are pretty good, affordable and can help you determine what is the best visa solution based on your actual situation. I use them and recommended to 1 friend who was also very happy with them. Good luck.

"Due to different culture, food habits, occupations, lifestyles, and language differences is a obstacle & she wants a divorce".

She has another man bro, sorry but that's the truth.. women will never understand what a heartbreak can feel like for a man. And I promise you, when you get out on the other side, you'll be a happier man.

Visa: please reach out directly to Siam Legal in BKK if money is not a problem. They are the best, and will find a way that the FB community can't.

Feel free to DM, if you want someone to talk to. Chin up!!

Discuss with your wife it's not only reason as you think. Last 2 year why you left her and did you treat her well? Money is not center in marriage life she been stayed more than 10years with you. In this years how you treaded her should be consider. You can get long visa having a daughter or after divorce can get retirement visa if your age 50yers over. The rest call rightful lawer.

Move on mate she wants a divorce that's it give her the divorce and and forget about everything you did for her just concentrate on being able to talk and see your daughter and spend time with her don't talk about negative things to daughter only positive things for both daughter and yourself get her a bank account and give only the daughter money so she can grow and mature and look after her own interests in hand

You will find someone else and move on with them but you will still have your daughter best of luck get a 30 0r 60 day visa and clean up the mess and just stay friends with the ex wife so you can visit and spend time with your daughter and have holidays and nice times visiting her 😊

Depends on what kind of outcome you're hoping to achieve and amount of available funds.

Full custody is almost impossible. Best to hope for is .

The land is certainly hers, but if you fight on it, it is highly possible that she has to pay you for the house development value.

I work with immigration and other government institutions regularly, cases like these often involves clauses that you signed throughout the years, like signing the acknowledgement that you do not own the right to the land property. Thus the marriage offers no advantage. BUT keep in mind this is land property, not constructed assets. It depends entirely on how hard you want to fight.

Be prepared that the court favors her. Dont go into it with the legal mindset of what is fair or just. A good lawyer will tell you that getting greedy will only work against you unless you have the funds to take chances.

Maybe you needed to spend more time with your wife. Apparently someone else has. Also who blames her you haven't been there in two years. She's a wife not a possession.

The guy asks for advice yet everyone wants to hear him up. What a pitiful world we live in.

Ive seen this before. Because you have given her everything, she is thinking "hmmmm, the next foreign guy will give me everything that's how they are" then when that never happens again she'll come back begging. Please tell her "no". When she does this.

Non immigrants o.(Thai child)

If I were you I would be talking to a visa agent, or attorney, not a Facebook group.

Home mean you bought a House? If yes, you loose everything.

There’s a sucker born every minute 🤦‍♂️

there is a company who could help sorting out a retirement visa without actual having 800k THB funds in your bank, they charge only 20k, and I got that dine last week, if you need let me know, will pass you the details, you can get a retirement visa (one year), or you can also apply kind of Buddhism study visa...

Simply go to Pattaya, there are lots and lots of companies that offer various visa applications, they speak fluent English and definitely can help

Your child is she legally yours?

You can stay extension 60 days for family

Sorry to hear mate but it's not any different to a western woman. At least she had a blissful 15 years and you have a beautiful daughter out of it

technically you could get a spouse visa

Another fool of a foreigner!

What you need to do is screw your wife over take everything from her Don't be nice. She is cheating you on facts

Seek immediate , professional legal advice . Likewise for visa advice . Every situation is different . You are not the first person that this has happened to and you will not be the last . You must protect your and your daughter's interests.

Consult a Thai legal professional.

If your daughter has the correct birth certificate etc. Thai immigration can grant you a 2 month extension

What was wrong with food habits?

Er du far til "thai datteren " .Er du gift i ditt hjemland eller i Thailand ? Står alle felles eiendeler i din kones navn ?

Lawyer not FB

Don't marry Thai. Easy as that.

Talk to someone who’s more familiar with the vise’s And don’t tell them about your situation. Good luck and God Bless

What did you think was going to happen ???sail off into the sunset and grow old together

You always get visa or permission for stay just to visit your daughter...

You need original document of daughters birthcertificate where you are mentioned as father.. good luck😉

Get out of Thailand but stay in contact with daughter it won’t end well. Keep ur money assets and go

Cpuntry of passport? Is child a Thai citizen? Are you the registered partner on her Biryh Certificate? What is your location. Contact Anglo-Thai Legal.

Use it or loose it. Game over.

if she agrees then go to the Ampur and get a divorce. Just agree on what assets are her and yours and access to the kid

Divorce her and marry another?

Normally everyone can get a 30 day extension easily and being married or for family members you can get 60 day extension.

Retirement visa if you have 800 k baht in your bank and you are over 50.

Thst is thai

very hard situation man, so sorry for this, Thai girls, is Thai girls...I hope you can recover fast for this situation, and keep something back to you

Thai women are cheap women.

Your differences of culture, food... were not a problem during 13 years.

What a tr4$h human being

You need a lawyer, not a FB group

I have a parental visa. Try looking into one.

Can't say we didn't warn you, it was never "IF" it was always "WHEN"

Good luck for your future. You deserve someone better my friend! We love you! <3

She will be ok with your cash tomorrow.

I personally would go to agent get 90 day visa which can then be made into a 12 month visa!

I have a non O retirement visa and it’s easy to do.

If you are near udon Thani or kk my agent can help.

DM me if I can help.

That letter was just bs. Now she have new man.

Whatever you do, don't grovel. It's over.

Someone else

The honest truth here. Move on and think about yourself, your daughter and NO one else. Never trust a partner. When I listen to foreigners eveyone has the best women but the harsh truth is that 70% of divorce are initiated by female in Asia.

@Glen ******

😵😵

Personally I think this is a troll post.i wonder is Thailand0007 his first name or his last? if you are real , use some of the money in the bank and see an agent!!!

Say goodbye

You can get a dependency visa as your daughter is probably dependent on your income and support.

It's the usual, really don't understand why people get married anymore...waste of money and it's pretty much guaranteed to fail at some point

Wow ask about a visa situation and you get hammered with know alls that know nothing at all of his situation geezus

I think the advice of @Dave Munday covers everything!

Feel for you. But if she wants a divorce it’s over. Whatever you plan next must take this as a given. Focus on your daughter and your own plans

🤣🤣🤣Love with a thai person 🤣🤣🤣🤣 There only love is your bank account! Enjoy 🤣🤣🤣

Go straight to a visa agent , its easier with such urgency.

I had the same 12 years marriage and a daughter.

I got a younger woman within a month , ex didnt like it and wanted me back .. no way.

Daughter has her own life but we still talk..

Life is better for me now , I'm on the retirement visa.

As for the house , etc. Let her have it , walk away

It always happens like this that's y never get married and make babies. Its win win for those girls. Lovers don't need to be married to be in relationship. Marriage is overrated

First thing is to stop all payments and being her cuck. Second go to the courts first before she does akd activate custody. Third sell all your assets with her and get your own place.

Took 15 years for her to figure that cultural differences out?

Real thai culture 🫶

You sound so naive. Wake up and face reality! Pay your bar girl and get on with your life 😜

Let's be honest, and I absolutely empathise with your situation, but it's probably too late to think a long term visa will solve anything. The sad truth is that she would not be demanding a divorce unless she already has everything she wants from you.

Seeking proper legal advice is the ONLY thing this forum MAY be useful for recommending.

Dave Munday mentioned everything perfectly...and most important, get a lawyer ASAP. Contact this company. Lawyers for expats 095 658 303

If you have a 13 year old daughter you just get a child dependent visa? If you have that relationship with your kid and she’s with you at times too?

Move on brother, there's always new buffalo roaming around... As fo visa, u enter another country stay a few days then come back in.

Why have you not moved to Thailand already in the past 15 years or so and got Thai citizenship.. I know it’s not easy but if you were married… then all your visa problems would not exist… just a mate has done it and very happy with his residency status and his de facto wife.. good luck to you.. maybe it’s not too late to see about it!

You can try to get a visa to be with you child.

Your wife buddy, i been there.

And here is the truth.

If she is hard on divorce. Then belive me there is another man.

She have met a guy.

Happen to me and the signal is same as i got.

My x then had fun for a while . Then see that the new oerson had no intrest in paying for her.

Then she tried to come back.

Then i already pass that. And met someone else too.

And i was then not intrested in a x that had sex with a other guy.

And then she use my kid as a wepon against me.

Alot of shit happen.

And i am today happy i moved on.

She become a parasit on me.

And my life was much better without her.

Maybe it might be that for you too.

Best wishes my friend I see this many times. Hope she doesn’t use your daughter as a bargaining tool to continue to extort you . I understand it’s difficult. Take care

I would say legal Siam will answer all your questions won’t be cheap. Not sure if they give you free advise good luck. To it sounds like you want contact with your daughter I think you will need legal advice. If the tries blocking that me no expert but been divorced 2 times always some kind of dispute feel for you best of luck

You can try applying for the Dependent visa, if your daughter is living with you and you are supporting her financially. I wish you all the best.

My advice you have a 13 year old daughter depends on her relationship and support as your dependent in Thailand you automatically get Non-O status but not spouse it would be a parent visa most visa agency’s can do this and doesn’t cost much since you have 15 years of evidence and a kid its very likely youd get it easily

La cosa che consiglio è di non sposarsi, in quanto una volta che hanno tutto lo straniero non gli interessa più

I'm so sorry to hear of your situation and pray for a smooth outcome long term. I hope the following suggestions help.

First of all stay calm and do not sign or agree to anything emotionally or under pressure. You still have legal rights in Thailand as the father of a Thai child and as the lawful spouse after a 15-year marriage.

1. Visa situation

A 60-day visa exemption can usually be extended by another 30 days at Immigration. After that, you should urgently speak with Thai Immigration or a proper visa lawyer about converting to a Non-Immigrant O visa based on marriage or potentially based on support of your Thai child. If you already have funds in a Thai bank, that may help with future extension requirements.

2. The handwritten divorce letter

Her handwritten note does NOT automatically end the marriage and does not automatically remove your rights.

In Thailand, divorce is either: mutual agreement at the Amphur (district office), or by Family Court judgment if disputed.

3. 15 years of support / assets / finances

Your long financial support of the family, home, vehicles, expenses, and shared marital life can absolutely be relevant regarding marital assets and financial matters. Under Thai law, property acquired during marriage (“Sin Somros”) is generally considered jointly owned marital property.

4. Relationship with your daughter

This is VERY important. Thai courts place major weight on the child’s welfare and the existing relationship with each parent. Continue communicating respectfully with your daughter and keep records of support, contact, chats, transfers, school involvement, etc. Custody and parental power can be negotiated or decided by the court if necessary.

5. Understand the psychology as well

After many years apart physically, people can emotionally drift apart especially when there are language, cultural, lifestyle, work, and communication differences involved. That does not necessarily mean she hates you or that the last 15 years meant nothing. Sometimes Thai partners avoid confrontation for a long time and then suddenly make a firm decision after emotionally processing things internally for months or even years. At the same time, your feelings are completely understandable. After supporting a family for 15 years, hearing “I want divorce” can feel devastating, confusing, unfair, and emotionally shocking. But right now, emotional reactions, anger, pressure, or desperation can make the situation worse, especially in Thailand where calmness, respect, and “saving face” often strongly influence outcomes and negotiations.

6. Do not disappear or leave Thailand suddenly. If you want ongoing access to your daughter and want to protect your legal position, stay organised:

keep copies of all documents, do not argue aggressively,

do not threaten,

do not sign Thai documents you cannot read,and get proper Thai family law advice quickly.

7. Most important practical advice

If possible, try for a calm negotiated settlement first. In Thailand, uncontested divorces are usually much faster, cheaper, and less damaging emotionally for the child. But if agreements on custody, support, or property are unfair, you can contest matters through Family Court.

You are not powerless here.

Focus on:

your daughter

your legal status

your financial records staying calm and strategic rather than emotional and protecting the long-term relationship with your child no matter what happens between the adults.

Find out who she is with now and go see a lawyer

Get a retirement visa if you reach the required age.

If not, get a non O Thai child visa. Use your child and not your wife. But as usual, need all documents to prove the relationship.

Engage a lawyer in your home country, and deal with it.

Well first so go give her the divorce.

Second you have a kid together so if you plan stay in Thailand then Non-o follow child.

You need to apply this at your embassy or any embassy that do this visa types.

I would go see an agent and then follow their steps. Believe it would not cost you much for the consultation.

The split on divorce I would use international lawyer.

Just google those in your area, I only know one but that’s in HuaHin.

I have agent in pattaya if you’re interested.

I wish I read this a few months ago. After 16 years, and a son, have just been completely wiped out 100%

Take a good lawyer

Try getting a DTV in a neighbouring country - cooking class or some ridiculous soft power option that nobody actually attends. Drop 500k in your Thai bank and you’re all set for 5 years.

Go to Malaysia for visa run or Laos

Sucker

If she is the one requesting the divorce after all of your support financially for 15 years, Better to give her the divorce.. But see a, solicitor to protect your interest.

You can get a visa based on supporting your child until she turns 18 however after that you would be asked to leave or get a retirement visa.

As far as marriage advice goes. Just move on, she probably has someone else or has had someone else the whole time.i was married there 4 times. Apparently happily for around 5-6 years each time.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Time for her to take your stuff

Since daughter already 13 she feels her burden is over n the ATM machine can stop dispensing money. She probably has kept aside large sums from the 15 yr marriage so it's time to divorce. 🤣🤣

You probably talk more to your daughter than to your wife. If I was a wife and my husband would live abroad I would not want that husband anymore!

U gave her everything she need. And now she can find what she want

Facebook Legal services here. We have all the answers. Why bother with proper legal advice?

After divorce you can get a non-o child support visa. Thats what I used to be here on. I had split custody. Not sure what your situation is but if you want to stay in Thailand you do have an option for long term visa if you choose. You should look into that for details.

Another common case. Routine

The main reason she wants out is she can claim 50% of what you have!!

Don’t divorce her. Stay in your house. Get a year education visa. Work things out. All the best.

First stay calm. Think more than a hundred times to sign. Make sure you are understand what is about. Your assets your money. Her letter with her hand writing you in needed. Officer can't be hundred percent to trust. Your line you connected to your princess important as well. Sponsor her what ever you can. Big chance for you if fight over the girl your chance is there l mean if you want your girl to be with you but still need to ask her dad or mom she want to be with.

First ask her one thing

Do you fuck with an other man

And yes she will

If you leave the country for so long time she will do that thats thailand .....

Scam

There's always sadly two sides to every breakdown of any relationship thai women a usually very loyal not with standing no understood sometimes

Be careful oof the lawyer asked cost first

Ask your wife to put house in daughters name

It will be easier to go to Malaysia for a few days and go back, or start some lessons here and apply for dtv visa

This is what Asian girls are 😁 Don't worry you will be free soon 😁 It's bad time now but leading to your prime.

Seek legal advice. Lawyer/solicitor

Seek legal advice

I recomend to visit a lawer for some reasons : you said you paid home, car and whatever else. I hope you can show transfer slips or anything else about your payments. The Thai Law say that everytjing was built or bought during the marriage was or Sing Som. As a foreigner you need a lawer, I recoment some far away from there fe. In Bkk becaus of the corruption structures countryside. You have 60 days, 1 more border run possible mean 30 days more.

You did not have a marriage for quite a few years it seems and wifey moved on a long time ago. Accept reality as your first step.

Get legal advice. If British go see Citizens Advice. They'll hook you up with a lawyer. As for visa options talk with the Thai Embassy

Not an uncommon situation. Call a lawyer.

Tell your wife to rethink this your daughter will have children someday and now is the time to try and reconcile

You didn't see this coming??

All your buddies told you so before you started the relationship but you said you have everything under your control... Hahaha

Your screwed.

Her reason is valid and also not your fault. Divorce from wife doesn’t mean divorce from children. Make your plan to be able to live in the neighborhood so you can stay involved with your children, means parents can divorce but doesn’t mean children losing love and attention from their both parents

Good luck with the visa, all the best

Go to immigration, not agent. Explain your position,ask about what documents, you need for a dependency visa. Until the child is 18 years old , you may qualify.Good luck.

Go to immigration with two passport Size photos and TBH1900 and apply. Should get 39 days straight away.

If your name is on birth certificate you can get a dependency visa!

However if you get divorced you need to make sure your name is on the guardian part!

When I got divorced the lady in the amphur signed a paper giving my ex wife full custody!

Even with the wife present the lady refused to change it and ended up in court for two years and cost me £1000s of pounds all because of this one horrible lady!

I ended up with full custody but could have been so much simpler if I had known more on the subject

As you have the money in the bank, it is best to take an agent who will convert your visa exempt stay into a 3 month Visa and directly extend for 12 months (=total 15 months). If over 50, best to go for Non O.

He will also be responsible for child support and education til the child is 18. But that should not be a problem.

Divorce and get thai children visa if you want to stay long time in Thailand or come by tourist visa

she met someone else

Make sure that daughter is yours my friend, i am knowing she had much sausage from many guys.

Quick answer is that if you are over 50y and have a certain amount of finances you can get a retirement visa.About the Divorce from personal experience if you do not want to help her obtain one she will have to wait one year and can get one on grounds of abandonment.

Lol leave asap , get your money out and all your belongings, your daughter is still there. You've been done lol

Mmmm not sure the truth is spoken here you said been away for 2 years do you not know it needs to be fed its too high off the ground to eat grass thai women have a mindset forget the marriage no repair kit available for that look at a non o based on thai family and be mindful your relationship with your daughter maybe good for now but dont be surprised if her mother attempts to turn her against you thats a given

Brother, first thing: stay calm. 🙏

You still have options legally, especially because:

✅ you were legally married 15 years

✅ you have a Thai daughter

✅ you have ongoing relationship/contact with her

✅ you have funds in Thailand

Do NOT sign anything yet without understanding your rights.

Important points:

1️⃣ VISA / STAY IN THAILAND

You may still qualify for:

- Non-Immigrant O visa based on Thai child

- extension based on supporting a Thai child

- or conversion from current entry status

Many fathers stay in Thailand legally through their Thai child even after divorce. Usually financial proof is needed (often 400,000 THB in Thai bank or income proof).

2️⃣ CHILD RIGHTS

Your daughter is the biggest priority now.

Because she is Thai and you have an active relationship with her, custody/visitation rights matter a lot under Thai family law.

3️⃣ DO NOT FIGHT EMOTIONALLY

Avoid angry messages, threats, or pressure.

Everything you write can later affect custody or negotiations.

4️⃣ DIVORCE

Thailand has:

- uncontested divorce (agreement together)

- contested divorce (court)

If possible, try peaceful negotiation first, especially for:

- child access

- visitation

- financial/property agreements

5️⃣ VERY IMPORTANT

Before your 60 days ends:

➡️ speak with Thai Immigration

➡️ speak with a real Thai family lawyer

➡️ prepare:

- marriage certificate

- daughter birth certificate

- bank records

- proof of relationship/contact with daughter

- house registration if available

You are NOT automatically forced to leave Thailand just because of divorce.

Stay calm brother. Focus on your daughter and legal strategy now — not emotion. 🙏🇹🇭

First of all, stay calm and don’t panic or make emotional decisions right now. After 15 years together and with a 13-year-old daughter involved, this is obviously a very serious and emotional situation.

Your immediate priority should be your visa status. If you entered on a 60-day exemption, you can normally extend for another 30 days at immigration. After that, you need to look at a proper long-term option such as a retirement visa (if over 50), education visa, business/work permit route, etc. Don’t leave it until the last minute.

Secondly, a handwritten letter from your wife does NOT automatically mean you are divorced. Do not sign anything quickly without understanding your rights regarding your daughter, finances, assets, and future access arrangements.

Most important of all — protect your relationship with your daughter. Keep communication calm, regular, and positive. Never speak badly about her mother to her. At 13 years old, her relationship and wishes do matter.

And honestly, stop relying only on Facebook comments now. You really should speak with a proper Thai family lawyer as soon as possible because immigration, divorce, custody, and assets are all connected together in your case.

Wishing you strength. Tough situation, but don’t lose your head and don’t rush into decisions.

So this is obviously a fake account. Posted three times since April 3rd same thing

2 yrs or 3 yrs?

Only took 15 years for her to realise all the differences? Im pretty sure it's for a different reason.

Ask you daughter if she wants to live with you

**I'm sorry you're going through this — 15 years of marriage and a 13-year-old daughter makes it incredibly painful, especially when you've been the main financial provider and stayed close with your daughter.** The handwritten letter from your wife is **not** a legal divorce; it's just evidence of her current feelings. Divorce in Thailand isn't final until it's properly registered (mutual consent) or ordered by a court. You still have rights as a legally married husband and father right now.

Here's clear, practical next steps based on current Thai rules (as of May 2026). **I'm not a lawyer — this is general guidance. Get professional help immediately for your specific case.**

### 1. Visa Extension After Your 60-Day Exemption (Immediate Priority)

You entered on a visa exemption (common for many nationalities), which gives you 60 days. You **can extend it once for another 30 days** (total 90 days max on this entry).

- **How to do it**: Go to your **local Immigration Office in Sam Phran (Nakhon Pathom)** before your 60 days run out.

Address: No. Moo 2, Village No. 2, Rai Khing Subdistrict, Sam Phran District, Nakhon Pathom.

Phone: 034-7.

They handle these daily — arrive early to avoid long waits.

- **What you need**:

- Passport

- Completed TM.7 form (available at the office or downloadable)

- One 4x6 cm passport photo

- 1,900 THB cash fee

- Proof of address (hotel booking, rental agreement, or TM.30 report from where you're staying)

Your Thai bank funds are **helpful** here — officers sometimes ask for proof you can support yourself (e.g., bank statement showing sufficient money). It shows ties to Thailand and helps your application. No special "bank deposit visa" for exemption extensions, but it strengthens your case.

**Tip**: Some offices now allow online e-extension via immigration.go.th, but for first-timers on exemption, in-person is safest. After the 30-day extension, you'll need a new visa type or to leave/re-enter. Don't overstay — fines are steep.

**Longer-term visa options** (while sorting the divorce):

- If you're 50+ and have ~800,000 THB in a Thai bank (seasoned 2–3 months), a **Retirement (Non-O) visa** is straightforward.

- **Non-O visa based on your Thai child** is also possible (as the father of a minor Thai national). Your daughter’s birth certificate + proof of relationship helps. A lawyer can guide this.

- Marriage-based extension ends if/when divorce is final, so plan ahead.

### 2. Legal Situation (Divorce, Daughter, Money)

Your wife’s letter cites cultural/food/lifestyle differences — common grounds, but the divorce still needs formal steps.

**Two main paths**:

- **Mutual (uncontested) divorce** — Fastest and cheapest. Both go to the Amphur (district office) where your marriage was registered. You sign a divorce agreement covering:

- Child custody/visitation

- Child support

- Division of property (home, cars, etc.)

- Any spousal support (alimony is **not** automatic in Thailand)

- **Contested divorce** — One of you files in Family Court. Grounds include living apart for more than one year (you’ve been out 2 years — this could apply). Takes longer (months to over a year) and costs more.

**Your daughter (13, Thai national)**:

- Until divorce is final, you both have joint parental power.

- Courts decide custody based on the **best interest of the child**. Mothers often get primary custody for younger kids, but your daily Line calls and good relationship are strong positives. You can push for **joint custody**, regular visitation, or even sole custody in some cases if you prove it’s better for her.

- Child support is usually required from the non-custodial parent.

**Your financial contributions** (home, cars, daily expenses, family support):

- Thailand has community property rules — assets acquired during marriage are generally split unless you had a prenup.

- Keep records of everything you paid for (bank transfers, receipts, title deeds). This helps in negotiations or court.

**What to do right now**:

- **Hire an English-speaking Thai family lawyer experienced with foreigners** — do this **today**. They can:

- Contact your wife (or her lawyer) for mediation

- Draft a fair divorce agreement

- Protect your rights to your daughter and assets

- Help with visa options tied to the child

Recommended firms (well-known for expat cases): Siam Legal, Juslaws & Consult, or Chaninat & Leeds. Your embassy can also give referrals. Search “foreigner Thai divorce lawyer [your city]”.

- Keep communication with your daughter **positive and consistent** — document it (screenshots, call logs). Don’t badmouth your wife.

- **Don’t sign anything** (especially any agreement) without your lawyer reviewing it first.

- Gather evidence now: the handwritten letter, financial records, proof of support, chat history with daughter.

- Stay calm and reasonable — Thai courts like amicable solutions.

If you want an amicable end, a good lawyer can often negotiate a fair settlement quickly. If she files first, you’ll get served and need to respond.

**Final recommendation**:

**Today/Tomorrow**: Book the immigration appointment for your 30-day extension + contact 2–3 lawyers for a consultation (many do initial calls cheap or free).

This gives you breathing room to think clearly instead of panicking.

You’ve supported the family for 15 years and kept a strong bond with your daughter — those are real strengths. Get professional help on your side and focus on what’s best for your girl long-term. If you share more details (your nationality, age, where the marriage was registered, or what assets are in whose name), I can refine this further.

Hang in there — many guys in your exact situation have navigated this successfully with the right lawyer and planning. You’ve got this. 🙏

Fifteen years later and apparently the biggest incompatibility turned out to be the menu.

Were you married at time of child being born ? - Yes = no need for family Court order paternity test.

No = legal process.

If married at time was born, and your on birth certificate easy. Non-o Thai child visa, 400k in the bank. Get a multi entry visa, you don’t need the wife for the next 8 years till daughter is 20. Then make arrangements.

Extend your visa based on your Thai child relationship Non-O visa.

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We can assist with your visa situation.

Stay strong.

i guess she found someone that gives her more money, you think you have good relationship with your daughter lol the moms def teaching her the true thai way

Well.. get a 90 day non O first.. go to Laos for that.. come back and go in for the retirement..

Get off line and speak with a lawyer. Preferable away from where you are. Your daughter is the priority and salvaging whatever you can for both your futures.

U should be asking recommendations for an administrative lawyer if your name is on the birth certificate. Alternative to that, a litigation lawyer reference

If you're not there for 2 years then you're not realy married ! Suck it up and move on ! You say you have money go see an agent get a non O then a retirement visa for a single man ! About £800 job done ! Or put 800,000 baht in your bank go to loas get a non O in 3 days come back sort a visa out in 2 mo the job done !

There's a lots of tossers in the comments, if things were going so well for them they wouldn't display such behaviour, I'd say there's a good few angry men here.What possibly could be going on in their own lives , 9 times out of 10 I'd say problems with money or the thai wife .

If you over 50 then apply for a retirement visa… if that’s your original question .., 🧐

!) your wife has no legal grounds for divorce so you would have to give her an uncontested divorce. That means you don't have to continue to pay her maintenance etc So it is better to do this in a friendly way and ensure ongoing relationship with your daughter. If that doesn't work then you need to consult a lawyer. You should be able to get a visa as a guardian of a dependent child, do talk to a lawyer regarding this. Otherwise Depending your age probably your best entry is through retirement visa, you do 3 month applicaiton via your home country Thai embassy, then you follow the process to extend from inside. Any visa agent can help you or you do it yourself but you must have or open Thai bank account and deposit the required amount of 800,000 thai baht for 90 days in order to be approved. I have done it, its not difficult. If you mean extend from now, then you can get a 30 days extendion on your current visa, otherwise talk to a thai visa agent who may be able to help yo for a price. good luck

Run Forest Run 🏃‍♂️

99.9999% of Thais are gold diggers !!! I Came here 30 years ago and after just a few hours it’s obvious we are ALL just walking atm machines to them and if you think otherwise you’re delusional!

Just get the divorce it's obvious it's not going to work

Keep in contact with Ur daughter so she knows you love her.

Later on just apply for retirement visa so if you do want to see your daughter you can and get your Daughter her dual citizenship so she can see you in the future if you reside back home

Look forward. Find someone better.

Visa issue - I believe that you qualify for a NON-O visiting family



Legal - Get a lawyer, yes your marriage is toast

There’s a Thai law, “money for love.”

Best you find a good legal representative rather than discussing here. Save your sanity. Cheers.

Instead of helping with his questions, you are asking a question which is too late to answer

My ex father inlaw was married and living with his Thai wife in Thailand for fifteen years, he was paying he thought all her medical bills. Then the police found that she had been murdered by her boyfriend. No medical bills. He was paying for the boyfriend.

This is the most helpful advice.

You ever heard of the term 'bitterfly'? She has turned into one

Let her go

U want be with someone who love you find another in right place

And all moneys given are what you wld do for any wife

Move on best for all

U stay away for 2 yrs,i wonder why she wants a divorce??

Happens all around the world, first stop immigration and ask questions.

Take your money and run

I got divorced in January 2025. No children involved in my case. I also suggest that you contact a lawyer. You can find law firms that have English speaking partners. They can help you with visa/travel issues as well as the divorce.

That sucks. Good luck.

Just give try with a different AI, maybe you can find some legal points

Welcome to Thailand. That happens quite often here.

She's got what she wants , now she's kicking you to the kerb .

She's already moved on in her heart and mind. Just go with the flow, damage is already done.

If you haven’t been there for two years, she can just divorce you on the basis of abandonment get a lawyer if you wanna fight it or if you want your daughter with you at 13 I’ll probably let her choose a lot of Thai women who give

Don't ever buy any property/land/house in a woman's name. If you decide to do it, draw up an agreement saying that she can't sell or transfer ownership to anyone else without your written, legally authorised decision. Keep the money, maintain a healthy budget. A woman with 3 kids is far less likely to leave a man than a woman with a 1 kid. Retain emergency funds. Always. Be ready to leave, remember, you're never the one, you're the one at the moment.

Get a good Thai lawyer.

Take a visa service, cost about Baht. You need 4 weeks time.

Don't see a Thai woman or a Filipina as someone to build with, go there and have your fun with them, but it terms of having a long , substantial life with them, this is extremely rare. As a psychologist in Hong Kong, I've heard hundreds, if not thousands of stories like this from men. I would say, only 1 in 15 men have a successful marriage or relationship. I've heard stories of men losing all their money to Thai women and put out of their house that they bought at 75 years old and becoming homeless with not enough money to even go home. Those women are cruel, so never get close to them emotionally. I understand their are exceptions to the rule, but stereotypes come from somewhere, so caution should be taken when entering into a relationship with them.

15 years and you didn't want to move to Thailand or get marriage visa? That's on you.

Fly or drive to Malaysia and come back, another 60 days.

Find new wife😅

Take it she has met someone else and she has been cohered into that after taking you money I’d remove money for Thai bank to avoid any claims and stop her getting her hands on it

Is your name on your kid's birth certificate?? Do you have a copy of the birth certificate?? Thai child visa is your next option. Or retirement visa if you are over 50 yrs old.

She obviously met someone else and wants to be with that person. Guard financially whatever you have now and make arrangements to only visit your daughter. The Thai government is going to side with her regardless of the circumstances and kinda make things difficult for you. This is basically an introduction to a new life. Let the wife go and focus on your life and seeing your daughter, don't allow yourself to be at the mercy of your wife because she's going to be very cruel and a person you never knew would be capable of the things she's about to do. To beg or look for her ever again because it will make things worse for you. Stay in your child's life and live your life to the best of your abilities now. I'm sorry for your loss ,and what's about to happen, but try to stay strong, it will get better each day as you adjust.

Do a runner quickly and take your money with you

You mentioned you line your daughter daily, but didn't say it's with wife.

I think a divorce is in order. 2 years is a long time to be away. You supported her but she gave you her youth also.

If you're in Pattaya, I have a Thai family law attorney who helped my brother and my Thai niece. As for the visa, Non-O retirement visa if over 50, or visa extension for 30 days beyond 60-day stay. No border runs are available anymore.

Get yourself a good lawyer to help you with your daughter if you want to see her after divorce. Many english speaking lawyer in Bangkok

After 2 years of marriage your wife got gave birth to your child

Listening to the husband one sided and judging the wife without knowing from her is completely stupidity and disgusting.

Once you go back to your home country, file for a non immigrant o retirement visa, if you are over 50.

The best advice you’ll ever get is to NOT take any advice from people on the internet!!

Just leave….your daughter will follow!

Thai before you buy

Be grateful not to be riding this train any further.

As a Thai people. Trust me you really need a lawyer. Because you need your wife's document to get VISA. It would be better if your daughter had already 20 but she is only 13.

If you ask me, the best advice for me is you leave before expiration date of VISA and then come back again. Until your daughter pass 20. So you can use your daughter's document instead of your wife.

When did we become so cruel to each other?

How did it become normal to look at someone who is already struggling and make them feel even smaller instead of helping them stand back up?

This man came here asking for advice for a difficult situation in his life. Not to be judged. Not to be treated like a failure. Yet so many people immediately pointed fingers at why he ended up there, speaking as if they had lived his life, felt his pain, or carried his battles.

People, none of us truly knows what someone is fighting behind closed door!!!!

And honestly, life can humble anyone much faster than they think.

What hurts the most is seeing how easily empathy disappears online. Some people speak with such coldness and superiority, forgetting that there is an actual human being reading those words on the other side of the screen.

I wish I could erase all this hate, bitterness, and lack of compassion that keeps spreading everywhere around us. I really do.

But since I can’t, the least I can do is remind people of something simple:

Being kind costs nothing.

And sometimes, kindness can save someone more than judgment ever will.

You can apply for a visa as you are the parent of a dependant child. You must have thai legitimisation papers that the child is yours and proof you are working

You fuked up mate

Sucker

Bro pick your chin up!! It’s Thailand. Get you a baddie that can cook some spicy Thai, and get custody of your daughter.

To the women blaming the guy… funny how that works isn’t it?

If she’s gone 2 years and he’s bangin the nanny he’s a scumbag.

He’s gone 2 years (and we know what she’s doing) it’s still his fault. 🤡

Stop funding from now.

Ignore everything first.

Disappear for a week and see her response.

Get good representation and hire a PI to make sure she doesn't have a new partner...

PeacefulOlive8799 is sound advice from my understanding. If you need definitative advice talk to Todd Daniels. He is the moderator of the group called Thai Centre Advice - Q&A.

A good way to ensure a happy marriage is to give your wife all that you have and for you to leave Thailand.

Get good representation.. and just talk to her to see what the real problem is. Even hire a PI to make sure she doesn't have someone new.

Is the water buffalo cured now?

Well if you haven’t been there for two years what do you expect.

You have paid for what they want, home child etc

Your use is gone now, she will have someone else now.

Your disinterest is going to cost you, I hope you still have the decency to keep paying for your girl to be raised and schooled

1. Lawyer. 2. Go for full custody. 3. Move on from this relationship because it appears she wrote you off already AND linked up with other men while still married.

Try to make sure she gets zero money from you. Support for your daughter is essential but the wife should get a fat ZERO

Forget her now is time to get some Ladyboys and have some fun

You're an ATM mate

Every situation is unique when it comes to relatinships, especially intracultural ones. Seeking advice from a Facebook forum may give "support group" fuzzies, but get ready for a whole lot of noise and very little in the form of a usable signal that you can extract anything from beyond frustration and a good dose of shame ( as in feeling like you were taken for a fool ). I have a Thai wife. Educated woman from a solid family where in 10 years I was only exposed to one family drunk, every family has one of those, so a nothing burger really. He is more like an entertainement at every family gathering. Brothers are company owners, Uncles are University professors and in one of the family kathins the current speaker of the house showed up with all his retinue. That is to say that my wife belongs to a strata of Thai society seldom sampled by the bar stool hanging Farang sweating his nordic stench in front of a fan on a sweltering dive in Pattaya or Patong. From the onset, I knew that there would be unsurmaoutable cultural barriers and given the solidity of Thai society when it comes to "kreng Jai", filial piety and respect for tradition, I felt it was my job to absorb, adapt and integrate as much of that as I was allowed to.Thai-Farang relationships are akin to a temple. Farangs pay a lot more to enter and are just not allowed in certain rooms and I am ok with that. The problem with so many white men in Thailand, I call them emotionaol refugees, is that they are operating under an icredible set of false assumptions and with few exceptions, they think they can port their entire view of the world neatly into Thailand in general, but mostly into their new found relationships. These assumptions are often based on a tourist brochure, a few YouTube videos highlighting the brown skin delicacies they could only dream of in the cold confines of their night chambers back in Plymouth, Perth or Cleveland and a generous pinch of delusion. You have a daughter, so there is yet another element at play that will require a good amount of common sense and skill at navigating her split identity feelings, especially now when puberty is knocking at her door and you may not recognize the sweet little girl you are so used to. Whew!!! After all that, I'd like you to take this away from my long winded crock of bullshit: She already divorced you in her mind, body and soul. The best you can do is cut your losses, both material, emotinal and spiritual, lest you end up as a headline in a Thai newspaper. Give her everything you reasonalbly can without a fight, establish a solid, if at-a-distance, realtioship with your daughter by continuing to support her during her formative years and do everything in your power to manitain what the Thai crave the most: Harmony. Good luck, my hearbroken friend.

What the actual??

He is asking for advice on his Visa options moving forward??

All you women hating blokes, keep the relationship unmentoring to yourselves!

Let her go and move on

Always ends that way !

I feel for you

LESSONS REMEBERED ARE LESSONS LEARNED

DONT EVER FORGET THAT

Why did it take her so long to figure all those things out that she doesnt like about you...were you too generous early on and maybe daughter kept you together..

Move on mate...shes been checked out for a while

All things you both would have known when getting married

I’m sorry you’re in this situation. May I ask why you were not staying in Thailand?

Eddie I want half 😎

Fuck I’m getting old…..

All it take is for someone to speak to her everyday while you not there. I seen truck driver lose their wives and/or get cheated on, even guys in prison who you call home every day but there is a man in her ear who will eventually caight her vulnerable and comfort her. Now he wearing that Thai cat out. Women need that physical attention dog. Move on. Focus on the relationships with your child, you lost her, it will never be the same. Your fault.... if I was you I would've been on that DTV VISA. If you got money pay for the bronze VISA $80,000.

There is nothing you can do. The Thai government will always back its citizens.

New chapter

Understand that divorce in Thailand can be either contested or uncontested.

Foreigners must comply with Thai laws, even if married under foreign laws.

Gather necessary documents, including marriage certificates and identification.

If married in Thailand, file for divorce at the local district office (Amphur).

For contested divorces, legal representation is advisable to navigate the court system.

Be aware of property division laws, which may differ from your home country.

Child custody and support issues will be determined based on the best interests of the child.

Consider mediation as a potential way to resolve disputes amicably.Ensure all agreements are documented and legally recognized to avoid future issues.

Consult with a local attorney experienced in family law for tailored advice.

Don get married to any one is my advice 🤦‍♂️

You can get family visa to visit your daughter, it’s not hard to do, you will need child birth certificate copy ID card if available copy blue book I think and it would be non o -a but you would be wise to check with visa

@THAI *****************************

it kind of wired that you're not inThailand full time, guess 'absence' is a real thing in marriage 😅

Just move on Guy!!! , คุณโชคดีที่เขาขอหย่าตอนนี้!!

ความสัมพันธ์ 15 ปี ไม่มีความหมายถ้าคุณไม่ได้อยู่กับเขา

1: ไปแค่ 30 วัน และเข้ามาใหม่ .

2: คุณโชคดีที่เขาขอหย่า แสดงว่าเขาไม่รักคุณแล้ว และเขาอาจจะเจอคนใหม่แล้ว!

มีผู้หญิงเป็นพัน รอคุณ

อยู่.move on only

3:ต่อให้คุณให้เขาอีก 10 ล้าน ถ้าคนจะไปก็เอาไม่อยู่! ต่อแต่นี้ไปเก็บเงินชื้อความสบาย และสุขภาพให้ตัวเอง!

4:ติตต่อแค่ลูก คุยกับลูก 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👧🏻.

5:ปล่อยเขาไป Let her Go and Move on kaaa🧠🧠🧠.

🧡ขอให้คุณโชคดี✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼🍷

That prenup will come in handy now

You’ve been away for 2 years? Leaving her to care for your daughter?

And you’re shocked..?

Do people even read what he’s asking for. Assistance with visa.

Stop judging the man and offer him help with his visa.

I know it's hard and hope that you can handle the pain 🫂

Thailand0007, you may be eligible for either LTR or Non-O, check the criteria online.

I'm glad you're in close contact with you daughter, soon she'll be 17 and can make her own decisions. You're not alone, confide in a close friend who can provide you support. This too will pass. I wish you all the best.

Been there my man. Cut your losses and run. Seriously rip the bandaid off and leave with whatever youth and profit/income making potential you have left. Take the kid back to your home country and regroup.

I really feel for you, must not be easy at all. You can extend upon the 60 days arrival for 30 days then if you wanted to stay longer there is the Myanmar from Ranong on a boat you can do with a company. Alternatively you can apply for an evisa and get a multiple entry one, if you don't have tickets booked yet you can use onward ticket for visa applications on evisa to get approved for it.

Hope things get better for you, you got this 💪 🫡

Time to upgrade

Agree about kids and home . Nip to the local amphur 2 witness and job done

Make sure you get custody and you can get a guardian visa.

Retirement if over 50.

Dtv as well.

slept with anyone for the last 2 years? U can provide for everything but cant fly to see wife and kids 2 years hmmm

She found a new man

hahahahahha! sorry bro….in 2026, this is funny! Another one in the books!

You have likely been supporting a piece of shit Thai man that doesn’t respect you, marriage or values. Whenever you feel bad remember the money you were giving to support your family as being given to a lazy thai pile of shit. JMO.

Bro you really think she gonna sit at home wait for you 2 years?? So many loser expats looking for love but can’t handle it when it comes to relationships

You've given the best part of your life I think you should go out there and find somebody else find another woman and let her know she'll soon get f****** jealous oh and don't give her a f****** scent give a nothing your daughter's old enough now to go to work you've done what you said you were gonna do you've done that it's time to move on don't find yourself another woman or another 3

How about you contact a reputable Attorney

Couldn't imagine why if you post everything on fb

After the divorce you have 7 days to get out of the country.

Get yourself a lawyer and ask lawyer to apply to the courts for custody of your thai kid… if successful and your wife doesn’t fight it you can get a yearly extension based on looking after your child.

I have full custody of my kid and I’ve been on this visa for about 8 years now.

Ups .., again an a person hiding his person !!

Ask a crazy question after two years …. Hope you took care of your daughter!

By the way Thai law is strictly.. she owns 50 % of everything you own , even somewhere… and she will get an international judgment against you … Plus if you not support her and child …. Good luck

Jag kom hem nu efter att ha varit i Thailand 6 mån, jag åkte över till Lao och var där 1 tim sen fick jag 60 dagar till.

I know there’s always two sides to a story, but from what you’ve written, I wish you all the luck in the world…

Chin up!