You're not going to want to hear this, but you'd be way ahead just waiting until your youngest has graduated from high school before coming here to live full time. You can holiday here during school breaks in the meantime. Why? Online classes suck. Your oldest will not be able to legally work here. You'll have to use an agent for any visas.
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