same as me pal ,dowry is a show thing now unless you drop on wrong family, 14 year ago I got married, mam give me all dowry back ,and we split card money, couldn't do with out mam in law,
not really just like security, iv been married 14 years now to a thai, live in the sticks 2 daughter's 3 house on my land swimming pool, and my wife still works in our shop ,people get the wrong information about thai lady's, unless they are bar girl scammers
If you have a copy of your child's birth certificate, get it translated and signed and stamped, and apply for a uk passport, then in Thailand apply for thai passport, my 2 daughter's are classed as duel nationality, no visa needed,for your child. Then start the long lenthy process of visa for your wife, good luck