I have two thoughts I guess. One is that your statement or question is sincere but lacks experience and time. I understand why you say what you say, cuz I said the same thing sort of at that point in my relationship.
many of the people with negative comments will be ones who chose wrong. who got burned by the wrong one he did not make good choices. how do you know it's not easy and it's not rocket science. at our age and I'm not as old as you but close we have experience to draw on you say that you can spot a scam a mile away and that is good but this is Asia. your standards for reference are going to be a bit off. be careful.
I have been in the same relationship with the same women since I arrived. and before we talked every night on video chat for hours I thought I knew her pretty well and I do, but there's many things culturally that I don't even understand. I may never understand. and sometimes I find out the hard way. so far though I've been able to bounce back from all of that and everyday our relationship is better. there is no reason why you cannot have a good relationship with the woman in her mid-40s. just take it slow at first and be careful. be ready for a life-changing experience.
I have yet to have the hard time that you talk about in Thailand although I have been here for only a year with that said I don't anticipate any issues either. I dress properly I act respectfully at all times but especially at immigration, and the only problem is I encounter are due to my inability to speak Thai language.
maybe you have had other problems here but even so I think it is their country, and can do what they want with it.
maybe... I didn't ask if they were wealthy or not but none of them looked it. seriously I was one of the few white guys in the class of probably 30 people.
many of the students in my Thai language school are now struggling to find other ways to stay in Thailand either to study the language or to live here. if you are able to learn Thai without issue then when you come back in to immigration and they test you on your knowledge, then you might not have an issue. but then again I know people that were refused reentry because of it.
because of the hearing loss that I have I will never speak Thai like I should. and so after 7 months of studying and not really learning a whole lot I decided it was time to switch visas. many others did the same.
like everything in life your mileage might vary but right now I am on the non o Visa and I Happy with it.
That's funny because more than half the people in my Thai class was from countries nearby. Myanmar, China, Vietnam, South Korea, very few people from the West.