He is Singaporean, and I assume that Singaporeans are sometimes pretty savvy about these things. If I remember right, he said that when doing the transfer, he noticed that I had a Wise account, so he put the money there. I see that that Wise is increasingly advertising itself as a place to hold money "between borders" (almost like an international bank, complete with its own banking card), so his claim may be legit.

1. I will probably be using their website, not their app. 2. I thought I was pretty clear that I am *not* sending money: instead I am trying to *receive* money that someone has parked into my Wise account (which I have not used recently) without telling me clearly how to receive the money into my bank account. 3. The amount of the transfer is 100 Singaporean dollars, so probably within Wise's funds transfer limit (though thanks for that detail, as I was unaware of it). And most important, 4. I no longer know my Wise account and no longer have the phone number that I may have used back when creating the Wise account (in *some* first world websites, such as the one created by Chase Bank, changing my phone number renders the site inaccessible). So please inform me if your instructions need to be modified, and if so how?

I am still trying to figure out how to find my Wise account on the Wise website. The words "Wise account" do not appear anywhere on the screen, that I can see.

Right. However, at this point, even when in the Wise home page, I cannot figure how where to navigate within their website to "tell Wise to send the money" -- because the home page I see seems designed for initiating Money transfers only. (I realize I am probably overlooking something, but it is really not obviously located on the page, at least not for those of us who are not used to using the "Wise account" function.

Would that be the Wise account information? (I have never used my Wise account, so may have to get a bit creative), or do you mean my BANK account information (which I have with me)?

Yes. The money is setting in my Wise (Transferwise) account, and the donor claimed that I can download that money to the bank account of my choice. (I had actually instructed him to make a direct transfer to one of my bank accounts, but he chose to park the money in my Wise (Transferwise) account instead, and I am still trying to figure out how to turn this intended donation into a real donation. Make sense?

@Tony ********

I think what you just said is an excellent way to start. My heart goes with you!

My heartfelt condolences. I realize this must be an incredibly hard period for you. You showed love to her, and experience love *from* her, and I think that is what matters most. Please do not feel bad or blame yourself for anything. You did well, both in tracking her (lack of) progress and in posting this note to us about it all. May God rapidly heal your sense of loss, and also provide you someone "new" and equally supportive. :-)

Well, in my case (many years ago) we married in Thailand and then initiated the process to bring my Thai wife to the USA. It took some three or four months before she was approved to travel, and a faculty colleague who had previously been a US Foreign Service Officer (US Department of State) observed that (1) that was unusually fast, and (2) most of the delay is just "documents walking from office to office" (and two years later we got her "green card," which was really pink and, if memory serves, identifies her as an "Alien" (as in "Daddy, Daddy, you married an alien" -- a true joke heard from someone else). That said, I strongly recommend the route we took, as it provides you more options going forward -- and I was also allowed to "financially guarantee" my wife, even though I was a graduate student with practically zero financial resources... Good luck!

It is kind of "you never know what," and depends somewhat on the quality and politeness of your response. The first time I was (unexpectedly) challenged at the airport, I truthfully told the officer that I was actively seeking local work, and the officer proceeded to suggest a couple of good places to apply and let me in. (I will save my other stories for later, as I, too, am seeking a more appropriate visa status for now...)