Did you have a sad childhood? Because it sounds as if you are having a sad adulthood. How TF would I be trying to recreate what I had at "home"? Home is a long way from Pattaya and the nearest Farang. I do it to bring some joy in this sometimes shitty and cynical world. If you can think of a better reason to do something give me a shout :-) You sad fkg plum.
I've been living in the country and learning speaking Thai for ten years. Before that I did the same in Indonesia. You're dealing with the wrong people mate. My local merchants are more on the ball than I think you or your bar girl are.