Is it common for Thai wives to act independently while married?

Jun 15, 2024
5 months ago
Dominic *********
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I have a question for the expats living in Thailand? From my observation and experience, is it common for wives to basically disregard their husbands, and carry on almost a single life? But still act as married? I have noticed Thai men who seem to always be waiting for their wives? I have also had this happen to me, although I am not married, or in a relationship! I am not suggesting anything is going on, but I was wondering why any man would bother, as it seemed he is really single? Please just constructive feedback, if possible?
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The discussion raises questions about the independence of Thai women in relationships, with some expats observing that Thai wives may sometimes seem to lead a more independent life while still being married. Several participants emphasize that this could be influenced by cultural norms, financial dynamics within the household, and traditional expectations of familial support. The conversation reflects varying perspectives, from those who see it as a cultural norm to others who find it problematic, without reaching a definitive conclusion.
Mark **********
Any man that gets married, now adays is stupid, especially in thialand, Stay single, and keep your hard earned money, to yourself, chill and enjoy
Dale *******
Accurate 😏
Oliver ********
when you say wives, do you mean husbands?
ฉันเป็นทางของประชาชน *********
Most of the Thai women are the bread winners (Freelancers) and the Thai husbands don’t have a choice since she pays the bills.
James **************
So since I don't speak Thai my last Thai girlfriend tried to boss me around and only get money from me whenever I visited. She snapped her fingers at me one time and I left for the day. Thought about it and messaged her saying if she wants to continue we will have a conversation about it. I got back and she said I treated her poorly. I literally flew around the world to be with her. And she threatened me by saying she was leaving me, I told her I'm not going to beg you to stay. And she walked out. I believe she was expecting me to beg her to stay. Moral of the story, women are the same everywhere in the world. They just want to use you for what you can provide them.
Frank *********
@James *************
Word for word what happened to me…

Cut the cord immediately…
Geir ********
@James *************
I recognize the Thai woman attitude, but strongly disagree that you find this everywhere around the world. A Latina, African or European woman would never act this way. Sure they wish to have a share of your money, but nobody would ask for money or dig into your economy during the first 10 messages on a chat. Some Thai (and a few Filipina) women are extremely focused on money. If you clearly state you will not give her anything she is gone the next minute.
James **************
@Geir *******
we chatted for a good 8 months before meeting, no money was talked about. Then we meet and everything seemed great. I decided that she seem to have good intentions. I then asked if she wanted to be my girlfriend and was hit with some Thai tradition about giving her a weekly allowance or something. Which wasn't a big deal as I give her about 75% of what she was currently making, which is fairly small amount in US dollars.

However if I happen to forget to send anything on payday she let me know.this went on for about a year. the issue isn't I wasn't willing to share I have no problem sharing the wealth. I want her to be grateful of what I do and give her. That's all I ever wanted
Geir ********
Poor you guy,
@James *************
. Paying your gf to be your gf. What a defeat. She is jumping to somebody else the moment you switch off the support. Nice way to be loved. Find a new better one.
James **************
@Geir *******
being unfamiliar with Thai traditions I had no reason to believe otherwise. I do know they have weird traditions with bride price, and the groom giving the parents gold, lots of financial type of traditional things this seemed right in line with the rest of them. Anyway I probably won't be getting another Thai girlfriend because of this.
Geir ********
And
@James *************
, don't forget that once your pint is empty you can order a new one 🍻 cheers
Geir ********
@James *************
no reason not to have a Thai gf. Just be clear that you are not a Thai, and you prefer to follow your own traditions. "Every" Thai woman wants a foreign bf or hubby. The market is unlimited. The gain for them is great even if you don't pay them a salary. Thai, both men and women, are extremely concerned to show off. In addition, family members put a lot of pressure on girls with foreign men to get help paying for everything from hospital bills, housing, cars, insurances, cellphones, clothes and religious feast like funerals, manoorah, Songkran etc. Some have no restraints and ask for astronomical amounts. If you start leaking money, it is difficult to stop without the relationship breaking up. Go for the more timid looking women. Women with bossy behavior, stunning appearance and expensive clothes easily catches your eye, but they'll easily fry you once you're in their pan. Loads of the women you meet in the city and on dating web are freelance hookers, and experts in trapping men. As loads of men that raves around in Thai bars and on the internet are losers in the battle for the ladies in their home country and an easy catch for stunning bargirls. They will accept whatever T&C these ladies throw at them. Use your two heads and keep the hart out of it.
Dominic *********
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So far, I cannot disagree with you!
Bob ********
It depends on what level of society you are looking at, I suppose, we have heaps of friends, some of the women have divorced the husbands for may reasons, some are happily married, no different to any society really.
Jan ***********
What marriage is offering for man which he doesn't have before?
Greg *********
Why are they marrying old farang in the first place.if you want to marry someone buyer beware
Ron ********
@Greg ********
if you lived the life of a thai women wouldn't you do whatever you had to get out of that life
Greg *********
@Ron *******
I agree.they do what they have to do.but don't be surprised if it's not true love.its a win win situation. Old farang gets young wife as long as he takes care.
Dominic *********
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Hopefully we will die quickly and leave them a house and money, so they can enjoy themselves with their current Thai husbands?
Dave **********
Married a Thai fifty years ago and the majority posting here have no idea what goes on in Thai Family Life as they only hang in tourist towns and areas.
Ron ********
@Dave *********
my thai wife is absolutely fantastic her family excepted as a family member life is hard for thai women my mother inlaw is great
Ron ********
@Dave *********
100% mate
Dominic *********
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@Dave *********
Dave could you give us a clue?
Jo **********
in 20 years it never happened to me
Mark *******
Jesus. All these beta males complaining about western women and talking about subservient Thai women are massively cringe
Darlene *********
@Mark ******
watch those betas form a pack and come for you, just like they did the Western ladies who commented...🤣🤣. What REALLY amuses me is on another post a guy may say he wants to marry a Thai girl and asks advice. You see all these same beta men disparage all Thai women as gold diggers who will fleece him until his last penny and then leave him. 😳🤭🤷‍♀️
Adam ******
@Darlene ********
They do the same though in the Philippines expat group I'm in. I read the comments and I'm just like Jesus. Y'all are just a bunch of angry old guys yelling at the kids to get off your lawn. 😅
Darlene *********
@Adam *****
not only the old guys...
Geir ********
We have all walked into a bar and got into talk with a friendly lady who is open to everything despite she has got a bf in Europe or North America. If a Thai lady smells money or benefits she is as single as it take to get it.
Craig *********
@Geir *******
you mean a bar Thai lady?
Geir ********
Not only in the bar. Can happen in the office, on the airport, in restaurants, on the train, in the shopping mall, in the reception area of the hotel, in the gym and wherever. In particular if you are formally dressed for work or meetings. And ladies used to talk with foreigners are much more welcoming because they have better language skills. The bf sitting at home suddenly have no importance anymore.
Andy *********
@Geir *******
Exactly 👍

The BF at home is still of some importantence for his monthly payments
James *******
This wont make your boyfriend jealous though.
Lore ***********
It’s the price you pay for having a young woman caressing your wrinkles.
Andy *********
Been here since 07 and in my experience and observation Thai women ( most not all ) like to feel in control in a relationship irrespective of her depending financially on the guy
Bonnie *********
@Andy ********
Control of the relationship, or control of themselves. They are people, too. They have needs/wants that may not include their partners all the time.
Robert *****
You’re post makes me smile Dominic….I’am an American living in Bangkok with my Thai wife I actually met in Southern California. What got my attention with her was she was fiercely independent. She had this work ethic that Impressed me. Meeting her Thai girlfriends I soon figured out that Thai women will not be stopped or controlled. Totally different from our western culture, which really Impressed me. She dragged me to Thailand 15 years ago to show me her Country. I learned a lot about just how these women work, plan, operate to keep the family matrix going. Since we now live part time Bangkok part time California we don’t have time for Drama. She has her family goals and it’s really her decision.

I think the worse thing you can do as a man is trying to ‘control’ your wife. The western civilization has always been keeping the wife subservient and dominated by the man, that simply won’t work with a Thai women.
Dominic *********
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@Robert ****
Yes I like independence, both in men and women! I have not met anyone trying to control anyone, however I would not be interested either way! I was just wondering what is the point in being in a relationship, if the attraction seems only to be financial? You share the same house, cook for 2, have one vehicle, because of financial reasons! Other than that we would be 2 individuals going our separate ways. That is what I have noticed with Thais! Western women seem to want to control everything and everyone! I think it is western men who are subservient! Thanks for the feedback!
Randy ******
@Robert ****
THATS A KATHOEY, BABY!
Robert *****
Kris *********
I think that Thai couples do less activities together because they have less free time. But besides that I don't think Thai married women act as if they are single.
Kevin ******
I’m taking the higher road and minding my own business and passing on making any judgement calls. 555
Lorine ***************
@Kevin *****
what's 555 mean
Kevin ******
@Lorine **************
in Thai, the number 5 is pronounced, “ha” so we write 555 to mean hahaha 😂
Graham'e *********
Thai wife is better than a western one, but this for visa question, not marriage guidance

Or girlfriends problems, maybe put a tracker on you female partner.this may answer your questions
Dominic *********
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Just a question, I appreciate all the answers. I saw that this is for visa questions and everything else! I would not attempt counselling!
Graham'e *********
@Dominic ********
who you or me
Dominic *********
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Dominic *********
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Graham'e *********
@Dominic ********
fair answer
Jarek ************
If you want a girl that will treat you right then head over to Vietnam 😜
Bonnie *********
@Jarek ***********
Women as commodity, so western; you'll buy anything/anyone.
Jarek ************
@Bonnie ********
Who talks about women being commodity??? Women like you are the reason why western men are waking up and heading to other countries to find good relationships 😂😜
Mark *******
@Jarek ***********
nah. Western Men head to developing countries usually because they can't get a good pick of the crop in their own countries. Let's not be putting the blame on women and be realistic here. The dynamics change in developing countries because you have more status being a foreigner and having cash.

Most guys with healthy relationships with Thai women are the same kind of guys who have (and can have) healthy relationships with any women (including Western). Just that Thai women are more likely to tolerate a western man's shit than a western woman, because western women have more options and more independence.

Let's not sugar coat it, eh.
Dominic *********
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@Mark ******
Incorrect! It is more likely they are not interested in women from their own country!
Jarek ************
@Mark ******
why would a smart man who's got his sh1t together wanna deal with drama and compete with simps? Nothing wrong with moving to a place where your odds of finding what you're looking for are better. This applies to everything in life, sure you could look for water in the desert but why bother???
Mark *******
@Jarek ***********
some of us don't need to try so hard or look so far. If you HAVE to move to find a date, it says more about you than women.
Bob ********
@Mark ******
Yes, it probably says that you are in your 70's and women back home are not interested in a man that old..
Jarek ************
@Mark ******
I moved cause of the weather and dislike of the Canadian Nazi government 😂
Jarek ************
Jarek ************
Ray ********
East is East & West is West and never the Twain shall meet!
Lorine ***************
I have a friend who dated a thai woman. She ended up getting married to a thai man. Whenever my friend returned to BKK. The husband dropped her off at his hotel and picked her up in the morning. They would even go out for food and drinks. He'd pay for everyone. So I get it.
John *********
@Lorine **************
Your friend needs counselling.
Lorine ***************
Alma ***************
@Lorine **************
that sounds like pimping his wife..?
Stephen *******
@Alma **************
time and do pimp the wives all the time and the girlfriends you seat in the bars in Bangkok when the drop 'em off
Marco *******
@Alma **************
its called the Thai hub being a cuck heh
Bonnie *********
@Marco ******
That's their personal arrangement. Interesting how you're applying US standards on a different cultural relationship. She's not soap, she's not going to wear out.

It's okay for men to do whatever, but not women?
Marco *******
@Bonnie ********
what are u even talking about I haven't mentioned nothing on relationships heh
Bonnie *********
@Marco ******
Cuck says it all. So yes, yes you did.
Marco *******
@Bonnie ********
if u enjoy cucks it is what it is :)
Alma ***************
Lorine ***************
@Alma **************
that what I said. But my friend didn't see it that way.
Alma ***************
Michael *******
You expect a serious answer to this question 🤔
Steve *******
Never heard that one. It's usually the other way around. Many of my Thai male friends have a mistress or two
Brian *********
Never seen this behaviour sounds like my ex on her phone day and night
Andrew ********
Any and every female anywhere in the world will always look to feather there own nests. Whilst in the traditional sense men , in there hunter gather style will support his family. The problem begins with Sin sod, thai culture, the pay back system to support there families etc. Like wise if and when thai ladies are brought back to fhrangs western countries, there's the fear of them becoming westernised. Which is part of the reason western men go here in the 1st place. To get away from western norms and expectations in a relationship
Andrew ********
Bonnie my dear. Who mentioned monies. Women have been doing it 4 years love. Milking men 4 everything they have, replacing them once there usefulness and money runs out. Then there's the dreaded I want half. Home, cars, kids etc. Men booted to the kerb. That's ur culture and mine love. Exactly what u have described. Its horrible. So again ur not a cougar who's loaded are yeah by any chance or a milf. Can't wait to part u from ur monies and be a keeped man. With ur high flying job etc. I'd love to milk some one eh. So is there any chance. . . . Then I'll want half
Bonnie *********
@Andrew *******
And men like you are fearful of women who have their own resources and don't need/want people with your attitude. "Any and every" is a pretty big and flawed assumption.

Maybe it's you.
Andrew ********
@Bonnie ********
very presumptuous of u my dear. I'd love a very rich, successful, powerful high achiever. I'd love a golden goose 🪿 💛 to live my best life, at the expense of someone else's efforts. Its my dream to be a keeped man and stay at home dad. Any chance ur one of these lol plz help me fulfill my life long dream. But by the same logic I'd date a lady who works in mc Donald's. Unlike u most men don't have checklists, most women like u think there 1% females whilst being anything but. Don't forget my dear women need men , men don't need women. We keep the whole shit show running eh. But u are entitled to ur opinion and 2cents, even though ur a dead wrong, self entitled, virtue signalling western feminist. Don't forget love who gave u the right to vote and work eh wink wink. Plus there's not 1 contribution or invention any woman has made in the last 500 year of human history, that has aided human civilised society
Bonnie *********
@Andrew *******
So you want to buy a woman with your amazing monetary endowments. If that’s all you have to offer, and it seems to be, I hope you and your money are soon parted.

Applying the worst of your culture, greed and exploitation, is not the flex you may think it is.
Bruce ***********
@Andrew *******
well said
Sven ********
Thai woman want a strong masculine husband, need to be in shape and they want to feel protected and taking care of. At the same time they also want that their husband can be sweet and loving to them in private but not in a simp way. Many Thai men are not like that and like to Butterfly around. They all like a strong man and with strong i mean in every aspect. They are still very traditional. In return you will be treated like a king and you will coming nothing short in life. My lady always say " yes Boss" in a positive manner and she will follow me in everything because she know i will make every important decision in favor of our family.

And she will Definitely not act like she is single because she know the minute she do this she will be really single again 🤣
Brian ********
Geir ********
@Sven *******
that's called fear, not love. She don't give shit about you. She just do what she have to do to harvest your wealth.
Sven ********
Less expensive? I don't pay a wife or lady any allowances. She is close to my age, we understand each other. Not interested in a 20 + year age gap relationship
Geir ********
In one way or another you spend loads of money on her.
Sven ********
@Geir *******
only when it benefits me and she is Very frugal. She don't like to spend much money. Yes they exist....
Geir ********
Exactly, so then we are on the same page. Money for benefits, or vice versa.
Sven ********
@Geir *******
i know the difference between fear and love. My lady doesn't "need" me for money, she have her own business. Ofcourse her life is easier now but the minute i do not behave properly, she will kick me out immediately 😁
Dominic *********
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Still okay if everyone knows the rules, and much less expensive than the west?
Geir ********
I assume 99% of Thai wives and gfs are focusing on the money, status, luxury and stability they get with a farang. I know most people with Thai partner take this claim as an insult and don't want to admit it, but it's the truth in most relations. Consequently, lack of love means they continue to do the same things they did when they were single. Sure, there are exceptions, but they are rare.
Dawn **********
@Geir *******
I’d agree. It’s also generational. I’m sitting at a restaurant watching all the Thais stream through a second floor picture opportunity dressed to the helt at at 15:00. I’ve seen the same in the US.
Brad *******
The description of Thai women as having to support their parents in lieu of useless Thai men is applicable all over most of SE Asia.

It's definitely true in the Philippines and Vietnam.

It's more of an Asian cultural norm. From what I've seen, the vast majority of Filipina females are single moms, deserted by roving young males. The situation is not helped by the Philippines being hardcore Catholic with verboten birth control.

The Buddhist cultures of Thailand and Vietnam are slightly different in their placement of the older people at the top of the respect totem pole, unlike the west which is just the opposite. This is one reason why young Asian females are far more apt to pair with older western males than anywhere in the west. Being older than 25 is not seen as repulsive, but rather something better fit for female security than same age males.
Alma ***************
@Brad ******
I agree...and I feel sad that the Philippines is heading such a sad future..just lucky I guess that I was born in 1965 and to have a strict mother making me realize that poverty and stupidity are match made in hell..So strived hard to finish schooling and change my future ..thanks to my strict mother!
Ron ********
@Brad ******
it's the daughters job to do so
Ron ********
@Brad ******
spot on mate my wife is responsible for looking after her mum
Michael *********
I was married to a Thai for 8 years she's Issan. And now I have a girlfriend from Bangkok. From the country to the city. Thai woman verrrrry independent at least with a farang maybe different when they with a Thai man.
Alma ***************
@Michael ********
I wonder what went wrong with your Issan wife?
Michael *********
@Alma **************
Loved her farm in Buriram not me. Now she have nothing again
Alma ***************
Garry ********
I think thai people in general are old fashioned, do right by them and they will do right by you, and foreigners have a bit of a advantage as they have a bit more cash to make life that little bit easier , but if she's pretending your not in a relationship with her, chances are it's strictly pretend and get the hell out of there.
Mary ********
Just a western womans view on the Thai differences - Not sure this is the answer you are looking for but just something I have learned since hubby and I moved here. Thai women are different to Western women and thats not a bad thing. You have to look at the culture itself to understand. Many Thai women have families to support so they go about their business making money to send home. Thai pension is around 600 baht a month - thats not enough for the parents to live on so the daughter typically goes out to earn and the parents raise the grandchildren. As much as those that are looking for women whine about supporting families - they forget this about the actual culture. Get away from the bar scene and you may actually meet the right sort but learn about the culture as well to avoid being disappointed. Remember the sons rarely help out parents and it always falls on the daughters of the family.
Mark *********
I think everyone here is forgetting back obligation from parents to daughters, not in terms of what they spent bringing the daughter up, which is regularly talked of, but in terms of look at the high number of children brought up by grandparents. Additionally to supporting parents women pay to granparents the costs related to the child/children - food and clothing, but often the big one is school fees. All told women often remit a very high percentage of their income back to parents. Generally men do not pay to support their parents. Equally, the fathers of those children long-since hit the middle distance, pay nothing toward the child/children's upkeep. And finally remember that even the most rudimentary birth control is often a "No".
Mary ********
Stephen *******
@Mary *******
what you have to say is correct I am married to a Thai lady I'm we living England my wife has got four Brothers they do nothing for the family my wife and her sister look after them one reason they've got more money as my wife's sister lives in Switzerland it is Thai tradition that the women look after the families if my wife wants to send money on to look after their family I'm not bothers she goes to work and makes her money
Peter *******
@Mary *******
Remember the sons rarely help out parents and it always falls on the daughters of the family.
Sel *****
@Mary *******
The problem is, they are like a black hole (from my personal experience). You can throw as much money in as you want, it just makes them happy for a day or two and then it’s forgotten and they looking for the next thing.

And the worst is, they ain’t loyal even if you spent a fortune. I was on the “lucky” side of things because I had two girls who were cheating on their falang bfs with me. Dudes sending money and they fkk around.

One even was as evil as the dude send her money for valentines and she bought present and some candles with the money to have a romantic valentines with me. Then she took romantic pictures of the candle in my apartment and shared stories “I love you so much, this candle burns for you” and stuff like that. It all was really heartbreaking to watch.

Both none bar girls. None prostitutes. Both have regular jobs.

That made me realize to not invest any serious feelings into the ladies here (or anywhere in the world).
Bonnie *********
@Sel ****
Maybe it's you. If it happens "all" the time; it is you.
Sel *****
@Bonnie ********
I said that it’s my experience. And you hear stuff from friends or read stories on the web. There are millions of women. Everyone is different.

But it could be me who sends money while she fcks around using my money. That’s what I consider now when I have a girlfriend or date. If you give something, don’t have any expectations from her and think the worst so you won’t be disappointed. Again, my experience and my reality. Yours might be very different.

Dating apps and Instagram changed the world a lot.
Dominic *********
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@Sel ****
My sad experience also! In the west especially!
Mary ********
@Sel ****
that's like believing all men cheat. There are good and bad in every society. The majority of Thai women I have met that I have become friends with are lovely and would never cheat. I reckon it depends on where you look and area.
Sel *****
@Mary *******
Yes definitely. The area plays a big role too, yes. It was Bangkok and Phuket. And the girls there learn extremely fast.
Mary ********
@Sel ****
PKK where we are is different. The people here are really genuine and lovely
Dominic *********
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@Mary *******
Thanks Mary! Yes I am not much of a drinker, these are just from observations, and asking questions of my Thai male friends! I am not looking for anyone, but can help some friends from time to time! Personally if I can, I would much rather help someone, rather than watch them sink, within reason! I am aware of most salaries and costs in Thailand. I appreciate all the feedback I am getting! I may retire in Thailand next year, as a divorced single old male! I am hoping to avoid all the traps. Thanks again! Good to get a woman's perspective!
Ron ********
@Dominic ********
I'm married to a Thai woman I couldn't be happier
Dominic *********
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@Ron *******
Thanks Ron!
Ron ********
@Dominic ********
the younger girls are a bit different there normally after financial but you can't blame them my mother inlaw has told me some stories about how thai men treat there wives and its not nice but it's there culture so when a foreigner treats them with respect they will look after you like a king
Mary ********
@Dominic ********
We live away from it all down in Prachuap Khiri Khan on the beach - minimalistically in a small fishing village north of town. The people here are amazing - no bar scene to speak of, a few farange restaurants - very peaceful living. If i was looking at moving here (did that already) I would come over and travel until I found my happy spot - thats what we did. There are so many places away from the bar scene and you get to see the real Thailand.
Leo ******
You can forget every single thing about what you perceive a relationship in your home country to be.... Thai women will make you feel like a man at all times.. They aren't corrupted by the western equalities where the system takes away your ability to provide so you pay more taxes and the goct provides. Here you are the provider. Its your job. She will just keep riding you over and over to please you so you keep providing.. She will serve you without emotion.. It will take you a while to adjust to it all...
Bruce *********
@Leo *****
You must be married to a young Issan girl with no internet and no education if you believe that.
Sel *****
@Leo *****
In the modern cities like Bangkok or Phuket they catch up I noticed. In 5-15 years they be westernized. Very unfortunately.
Rochelle *********
@Sel ****
oh no , how awful for old fat foreign men 😂
Leo ******
@Sel ****
Yep. Been here 30 years and the difference is massive.
Dominic *********
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Thanks Leo! Would it be similar to the west, 50 years before?
Peter *******
Bonnie *********
@Dominic ********
In mt home country, they used to institutionalize and/or give lobotomies to women who weren’t subservient.

Seems that’s what you’re looking for.
Leo ******
@Dominic ********
The culture here is very basic... They don't pair up for dreamy love scenarios they watch on television soaps.. They pair up to have kids and for survival..
Tom *******
@Leo *****
pretty accurate description.. also very accepted in the culture of The Kingdom is what is known as GIK, Thai phrase meaning (friends with benefits). I have had this situation for 2+ years now. She is more than just my “ holiday GF”, as we have chosen to stay ONLY with each other… yes… even when I am not in Thailand. I chimed in here not to hear comments about my situation, but to add to this discussion in general. 🙏
Brandon *********
@Tom ******
that’s the funniest thing I’ve read all day
Tom *******
@Brandon ********
um ok ✅.. glad to hear that!
Dominic *********
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@Tom ******
Thanks Tom!
Tom *******
@Dominic ********
welcome 🙏
Leo ******
@Tom ******
The worst thing you can do is View the Thai culture the same as yours....
Tom *******
@Leo *****
100% .. and thank God and Buddha for that! 🤣
Dominic *********
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@Leo *****
Mainly for financial benefits?
Leo ******
@Dominic ********
How else you expected to provide? You're still paying in Europe.. Its just costs less here... 🤣
Dominic *********
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@Leo *****
Yes I have in the past, but not for many years!
Alma ***************
Are you talking about Thai wives?..in general it is not normal to disregard the husband of you are married, unless it's in the culture or something in the arrangement of marriage..
Dominic *********
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Okay thanks, I have just noticed with some men here in Hatyai, that the wife will be free after she has cleaned the kitchen, done the clothes washing, chatted to her friends for a couple of hours, watched a Thai love movie, fed the cat, gone for a 1 hour walk! If the husband is till awake, she will chat to him!
Bonnie *********
@Dominic ********
So you see/want a housekeeper and someone to have sex on.
Alma ***************
@Dominic ********
this is not disregarding the husband, but taking a free time after all the chores..good for her emotional health..I do that too and my hubby we sometimes do separately if our sched don't align..he can go while I stay home to do chores..nothing abnormal with that ..
Dominic *********
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@Alma **************
Okay, thanks!
Alma ***************
@Dominic ********
not Thai, I'm Filipino and married to a man supposed to be from a strict culture ..but I am treated as a human, as a wife, as a woman..I am not a servant, caregiver only to our kids. I do or rather did my duties as a mother and wife very well but I enjoy my freedom to mingle with my girlfriends without hubby checking on me every 30mins. I can come home past 10pm as long as he knows..giving a wife time to be herself and with her own circle of friends is healthy ..
Dominic *********
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@Alma **************
Yes I was married before, My wife would like to go out with her friends, and I would stay home with the kids. I was older! No longer interested. My only rule was to be home by midnight! I live in Australia and aussie wives sleep around!
Alma ***************
@Dominic ********
my freedom I was talking about is since in a month invite to bdays, coffee dates with gf, or walking in the park..that for me is enough to feel free..sleeping around not my habit..
Alma ***************
@Dominic ********
oh it's an Aussie culture then!
Dominic *********
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Thanks for the heads up
Leo ******
Are the women in your home country better? If true, why are you still looking in Thailand?
Dominic *********
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@Leo *****
I don't recall the comparison!
Bonnie *********
@Dominic ********
The comparison is implied.
Ethel ********
@Leo *****
ouch bro!
Peter **********
I think it’s quite common for Thai women to see their Thai husbands and or partners as a necessary evil, as most of them are pretty delinquent in their family responsibilities especially in the North

You often see Thais married women and men at separate tables even in restaurants or at festivals

It’s different for ex pats as they often don’t speak Thai so you get a group of men at one table and the wives at another when at Social events
Michael ********
Where are you doing your observations ? Yesterday me and my wife paddled through a paperbark swamp and went trekking. Today went to look at farm for info on different trees to plant. Tomorrow will probably be our normal walk around phuttamon followed by some time in gym
Brad **********
Michael ********
Dominic *********
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@Michael *******
On holiday in Hatyai, but was here many times before! I love Thailand, and have managed to keep going unscathed! I was also locked down here for 2
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years during the corona virus! I am in Singapore at present, on my way back to Australia!
Michael ********
@Dominic ********
Me thinks you only hang arounds the bars
Gordon *******
He Won’t be hanging around bars in Hat Yai
@Mic****
, nothing like that down here , large Muslim influence around the southern Provences
Michael ********
@Gordon ******
yes i lived in the South for long time and you do know Hat Yai is a party town for Malays mate
Dominic *********
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@Michael *******
Actually no!
Us *****
Bro, Thai men are lazy, the women are one ones making all the money in Thailand. So the roles are reverse here. But everyone is single here in Thailand. 555
Greg ********
@Us ****
spot on.100%
Jo **********
@Us ****
no obviously you know nothing of Thai culture. I have been here for decades with only Thai friends. Men have the money.
Us *****
@Jo *********
some men have money but majority of the families depend on the female to send money home
Jo **********
@Us ****
ok that’s true for the very poor families
Dominic *********
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@Us ****
Okay, got it!
Jo **********
@Dominic ********
it’s not true
Michael ******
It's got to be a troll. It has nothing to do with visas and no one is dumb enough to think this way
Herve *********
@Michael *****
it says visas and everything else!
Dominic *********
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Albert *******
Thai wives are just like ANY other wives in the world . The more they depend on you financially, the better behaved they’ll be, PERIOD . And vise verse . 🤣🤣🤣
Rochelle *********
Colin ********
Women can set boundaries and expectations but if a man tries to he's being sexist and masoginiistic. Modern western women are so entitled, and self obsessed then they wonder why passport bros is a thing!
Dominic *********
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@Colin *******
But also men allow it!
Jon ********
Larry *******
@Jon *******
when you are dependent on someone else for support you are angry at yourself because you can’t provide for yourself. You inappropriately take it out on the person that supports you.
Jon ********
@Larry ******
you are thinking like a westerner
Larry *******
@Jon *******
I’ve been in Thailand for 6 years and am well aware of Thai women tendencies. They are wonderful women but they do resent having to be supported . Your profile shows your in Brazil so why do you bother to comment? Are you trolling ?
Larry *******
@Jon *******
it’s not wrong. It’s very much the truth. If they are dependent on your finances it is resented.
Jon ********
@Larry ******
I gather you have not been married
Larry *******
@Jon *******
married once for 35 years and currently married to Thai wife for 5 years. Guess again
Jon ********
@Larry ******
Well my experience is money is money so where comes from is not an issue. No one is looking down on anyone, especially if your wife comes from a poor family. When the family is not provided for the wife is looked down upon.
Dominic *********
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Tai Zacamoto Not so much!
Larry *******
@Albert ******
The more they depend on you financially the more they resent you.
Rochelle *********
@Albert ******
white men behave so disgustingly here. They marry young girls and then complain about them being financially dependent on them . You didn’t like your western wives being independent and not taking your nonsense . These young girls deserve to take all these old farts money … thailand is filled with pervy white

Men . Karma !!!!
Mike ******
@Rochelle ********
typical white liberal
Diana ******
@Rochelle ********
🤙✌️👏
Narelle ************
@Diana *****
all the sad little men are out in force today 🤣🤣🤣 with every cliche in the book as well. ‘High value men’ lmao they all need to go clean their rooms
Matthew ********
@Rochelle ********
are you intimidated by high value males living their best lives or just a racist who denigrates Thai women?
Rochelle *********
@Matthew *******
no , most men I have met that are in relationships with thai women haven’t even bothered to Learn their language . Definitely support thai women , just not sexist jokes about women behaving .. etc … more shocked at how western men behave towards women in general here
Matthew ********
@Rochelle ********
fluent in Thai studied it for 15 years. You are a racist who denigrates Thai women who choose to be with white men. Have you noticed the way local Thai men treat women?
Bonnie *********
@Matthew *******
How the heck did you get that from her comments? High value males? Oh please. If you think money is the center of the universe, you’re just using women as a commodity. Not a good thing, really.
John *****
@Rochelle ********
did his comment hit a little close to home? 😂☠️
Kǎisǎ **********
@Rochelle ********
so colonial of you to apply your Western notions of culture and relationships to Thailand. You must save them and show the freedom they don’t know they needed so they can be like you!! 😂😂
Colin ********
@ *********
really? Colonial? How is that?
Bonnie *********
@ *********
So, women as commodity?
Leo ******
@Rochelle ********
How is it pervy... You're looking at it from a womans perspective... From a man's perspective its soothing to not have to have some fat, depressed, masculine mess of a woman blaming men for her insecurities... Mean while genetically fit, clean Thai women that look after themselves are here in abundance... Go find yourself a nice masculine, caring, loving, affectionate, Thai man to take care of you.. I'm sure one of us will get round to you when we've worked our way through the population of hot, fit, Thai women..
Rissy **********
@Leo *****
you’re talking about people like pieces of meat. These “fit young Thai girls” deserve more than the way you are speaking about them. Love and happiness is possible for anyone if you are capable of it. This is not the way. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Leo ******
@Rissy *********
No... That's how you perceive it...
Rissy **********
@Leo *****
yes everything is how we perceive it. But you get what you put in to this world. If you want a loving loyal happy partner, you need to be a loving loyal happy partner. You want someone that takes care of themselves, you need to take care of yourself. You want someone to meet your needs, you need to be able to meet their. Healthy relationships aren’t
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, they are
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Bonnie *********
@Leo *****
What kind of women were you choosing? Or did every other woman in your home country turn you down? Women are not a commodity.
William ******
@Leo *****
yup, that would be pervy to her
Dawn **********
@Leo *****
and can’t wait to count how many STD’s you’ll have. 😂
Dominic *********
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@Rochelle ********
The men I know are mostly Thais married to Thais, I also know some farang who married women from wealthy families here! I know one older farang who married a 40 something Thai lady!
Bonnie *********
@Dominic ********
And I know western men who ask how much it costs for a girlfriend, or wife.

This has been asked more than once, especially by a specific group from my country.
Colin ********
@Bonnie ********
maybe I but how many women who ask how much their salary will be before they will even date a man, is that not as bad? So who is really to blame here? I think the women put this on themselves most of the time.
Leo ******
@Colin *******
100% and when a man starts dictating his expectations they get offended and are all like this one above with her self projected and entitled response...
Albert *******
@Rochelle ********
madam please , this is a discussion between us men. For god sake just let us have a little fun for once . Omg . 🤣🤣🤣
Rochelle *********
@Albert ******
no this is not just for men actually. So sick of chauvinist old

Men thinking your belittling comments about women are funny . That’s why a lot of you end up in cages here .. shame on you !
Bruce ***********
@Rochelle ********
bloody heck talk about a chip on the shoulder
Colin ********
@Rochelle ********
wow, and you call THEM sexist? Works both ways you know

I know a lot of Western men HAPPILY married to Thais, including myself andost of us treat our wives with respect and take care of them. Maybe your jealous because you haven't and your attitude is enough to scare of any potential victims.
Bonnie *********
@Colin *******
Your attack is pathetic. If the comment doesn’t relate to you, why are you so upset?

Yes, there are many normal relationships, but there are also the “Thai women as commodity relationships.

You know those, too.
Colin ********
@Bonnie ********
1) I wasn't "attacking" but stating a fact. 2) Whose upset, I'm just putting the record straight 3) if you are in the Sukhumvit bubble this, MAY be true, but not so for the rest of Thailand and the majority of relationships 4) and how about the relationships were the man is treated as an ATM, which h is probably more common.
Bonnie *********
@Colin *******
When men treat women as a commodity, they should be an ATM.
Dominic *********
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@Rochelle ********
Do I detect a middle aged obese farang who is not happy with the single life? Recently realised she weighs twice as much as the car she is driving, correct!
Rochelle *********
@Dominic ********
If only , just a women who has lived in bangkok super long and bothered to learn the language and respect the culture

And people xxx
Dawn **********
@Dominic ********
you’re so lazy that you didn’t even bother to look at her pics before making random comments! 😂
Albert *******
@Rochelle ********
actually we are running from women EXACTLY like you , and here you are chasing us down all the way over here ! 🤣🤣🤣
Dominic *********
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@Albert ******
Correct! Being an old bloke, I have noticed that! I have had too much experience with western women! I was just looking for the light at the end of the tunnel? 🤣🥲
Terry ********
@Dominic ********
the light at the end of a tunnel is usually a train travelling at high speed😅
Albert *******
@Dominic ********
the only difference between western women and Thai ladies is the Thai ladies are very upfront about the “situation”. Western women are full of shit and games ….
Bonnie *********
@Albert ******
So you want what? Maybe you’re the problem.
Albert *******
@Bonnie ********
why you say “ maybe “? 🤣🤣🤣 . We get what we want . The question is why are YOU here, and what do YOU want by commenting?
Di ********
@Albert ******
not ALL women!😨
Albert *******
@Di *******
why would you even say ALL? Nobody can speak about ALL people about anything sir . You know that . I’m talking about enough of the majority to make my statement at least agreeable to most men . Please don’t hit me with the “ALL” argument . If that’s the case we couldn’t talk about almost anything . Just like not ALL western men in Thailand date Thai girls 🤣
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