@Te**
, believe me I'm not tryin to poke fun at you, I'm doing my best to make a really dry, and sometimes confusing topic interesting enough so it clicks with you :O :) The more you know what you're here on, etc the better equipped you are to deal with immigration people.
Definitely GO get the 30 day extension on your current 30 day visa exempt entry stamps <- no need to wait until they're almost expiring because the 30 days is ADDED to your current expiration date
Then ask for the hand out on how to apply for an in country Non-O visa based on being a "trailing spouse" <- meaning you are getting a Non-O visa because you're married to a foreigner who legally works here on a Non-B/work permit.
Good Luck, please realize I meant no disrespect in my comments to you and am just trying to get you up to speed so you can navigate this and push your own paper at the immigration office.