@Harrys ***********
I understand and only you can fully know your circumstances and what you need to be happy for the rest of your life. I too have had bad experiences with marriage with western women (as most men that come to Thailand have) and what people say is true. If you choose the right Thai woman (and you seem to have done that), they are everything you dreamed being married would be like. My wife is the most perfect woman I could have imagined; intelligent, charming, funny, positive, loving, caring, affectionate etc. Every day is filled with love and laughter and she appreciates every little thing I do. Like you stated, see how you feel after you meet and do whatever suits you, take lots of pictures together to use as evidence and then, with good organisation/presentation of evidence, she should get a tourist visa to visit you. Good luck Harry.