@Kathy ***********
small stuff!? Someone having to deal with all of those details- in their grief, desperate to try to do it right to honor you? That’s sort of unfair isn’t it? People feel very pressured trying to figure out what decision to make that would be appropriate or pleasing to the dead person. I know I have emptied my house and gotten rid of all my belongings so my kids won’t have to deal with going through stuff and getting rid of stuff. My wishes are clearly laid out so siblings don’t have to worry about and argue about what they think I would have wanted. It’s a very considerate and loving thing to do for your family, to have a plan. It’s also why I’m getting cremated -I don’t want to be in the ground someplace where people have to feel bad about not going to visit that site. Burn me. It’s a fraction of the cost of funeral and burial and then anyone can have a little bit of me if they want. It’s just about being thoughtful to the people you love?