So to re-cap the myriad of choices
@Daniel **********
has
1 - get 90 day single entry Non-O visa online from the thai consulate in their country
** come in get 90 days, take one 60 day visit family extension
2 - get 6 month METV <- multi-entry tourist visa online from the thai consulate in their country
** come in get 60 days, take one 30 day extension, exit/re-enter get another 60 days, take one 30 day extension repeat
3 - get NO visa, come in free stamp 60 days, take a 30 day extension, bounce out/back get a new 60 day free stamp entry, take a 30 day extension repeat
4 - get the 5 year DTV <multi-entry Destination Thailand Visa online from the thai consulate in their country
** every time you enter for the next 5 years you get stamped in for 180 days
Those are your choices ๐ Thanx one and all for the suggestions