I go visit my family once a year for the past 25 years. It’s been very peaceful lately for the past ten years. Lovely people and very safe environment.
I'm Thai and i can confirm that that how all the locals do it here. pretty normal. we develop a sense of trust that the buyers transfer first then send grab to pick items up.
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