Thank to everyone with their advice! I think we are sorted now. Samui here we come!!! would welcome any friend requests from any expats - especially in Samui :)
I have just been advised the best option for ME would be the tourist visa, then if I find vol work apply to immigration. Best for HIM would be the retirement vis (O-A). does that sound right?
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