What can I do if my Thai partner stole 70,000 baht from me?

@Joe *****

True, $3,500, dollars, that's me in walking street 6 days of drinking and soi 6

@Steven ******

I'm same haha

@Us ****

the way you generalize you can say the same about all countries including your own

@Us ****

Only a tiny percentage. But this is in every country.

@Kyle *********

well never should stereotype but I ve been here 10+ years and that’s the way it works. It also doesn’t matter if your farang, Thai, Malaysian etc. You must take your western values and traditions, check them at the door and live like a Thai if you want to avoid these issues. It’s their way and you need to respect it. Like boxing protect yourself at all times.

@Craig ********

Maybe depends what part you live and if the western man is being used for only 1 thing. I mean my girlfriend works in an office 6 days per week earns her own money, he sister works in health department, sisters boyfriend IT tech.. all of them work and don't expect me to pay for everything, If it's a small village say in ISAN maybe completely different, or bar girls in Pattaya. Bangkok has a population of over 11 million 🤷‍♂️

I mean I find thai culture pretty easy to adapt to but being used as an ATM is not thai culture, I see plenty of Women working harder than the men.

@Kyle *********

hi - I live in a small village in Isaan and I only help my wife with money and sometimes her grown up daughter. I have a great relationship with the family and they expect nothing 😊

@Kim ********

Arr fair does that's good, there is genuine of course I think alot of thais are very kind and stereotyped.

I'm pretty much the same like often even if I try to pay for a meal her sister and sisters boyfriend will say no and are quiet proud. My girlfriend only actually earns 15k baht a month so I'm happy to help her out but she passed the tests on 1st dayes paying her share. I tell her not to do overtime but she always ignores anyway 😂 Did give her 15k baht for her birthday though and she was shocked haha which in reality for me is just a few days work. So yes gifts and treats but same as with a western girl I'd never let them leach or expect it.

@Kyle *********

thanks a lot for your very personal message 😊😊😊

@Kyle *********

your last sentence is golden. Set the precedence and keep your guard up and you will be ok. Good luck and hope it all works out.

@Kyle *********

I would say the women in most cases always work harder than the men. I would agree that in larger ergonomic communities such as BKK there is a changing culture and more middle class. How long have you been in Thailand? You did say they (gf and family) don’t expect you to pay for everything. You shouldnt have to pay for anything except as a gift.

I think you will find, and please ask your girlfriend about lending money to Thais. Even she I am sure will tell you to be careful. As per this post it has nothing to do with who pays who its about lending money within the Thai culture. Treat it as a gift expecting no return and you will be ok. Bartering is something also completely different. There is a reason it takes a longer to close most larger deals in Thailand (land, cars, boats etc). I’ve seen it on every front but shouldn’t be considered derogatory but part of the culture. Those of us who live here just except it and play along and have a good laugh. Thailand is still one of the best places around.

@Craig ********

2 years ago, left my job and went to travel then ended up living between there and Australia. My girlfriend is from Bkk but she baught a condo just outside as its cheaper and her work is there.

At the moment I'm back in the UK working, we're just tryna figure out what to do I think she will be coming here we will both work for a while then return. I'm back over in 6 weeks but just a holiday to see her, then she'll come here on tourist visa first after Christmas then eventually for a few years so we can both rack up abit of money.

I'd been previously a place called Chiang Kham a few hours from Chiang Rai, an old friend lived there for 7 years, was married to a thai teacher who's family owned a school and had to kids together. They're divorced now though and he's been back sometime. He did say a few things though like when he played for a football team after a match all the lads would order beers and expect him to pay, also he had to pay his ex wifes mother like £3000 to marry her 😬 this is like 12 years ago. In general though he was skint and her family looked after him

@Jasmine *********

live and learn, Jasmine.

@Jasmine *********

no matter how cautious we are in business and life, sometimes we must take chances and be vulnerable. Sometimes that trust is broken. As Danny Burt said, just learn and move on. Best of luck.