@Fraser *****
okay,
You are here on a 30 day visa exempt entry stamp, you NEED to be on a Non-Immigrant Type O visa to get an extension based on marriage.
SO
you're going to need to apply for a 90 day Non-O visa from section C-1 first. Then you're going to wait the two weeks, go back and get it stamped into your passport.
Then you're going to wait another 6 weeks or so and then go back and apply for the year extension based on marriage. <- and yes at that time you will need to get a new bank letter and update your bank book AND have all the photos, paperwork etc again..