@Raúl ******
yes, she is lovely, and caring, and thoughtful, and a big surprise she finds time to put up with me. but, i learned not to even joke about things like infidelity. she doesn't think joking about it is to be done. another friend told me if his, thai wife, even has a dream about him with another woman, she is mad at him all day. now, how can one fix that??? but the trade off is that, my wife, is as loyal as one could hope for. and for me, thatz important. nothing like a little infidelity to ruin everything good one has. just not worth it, to me, at least. never been like that. happened to me, once, never liked it that much, so am unwilling to foist that on another human being. not moral or anything like that, at all, just like treating people right, especially wives. jb