@Peter ******
that's the choice I'd pick, even though I agree staying here long term because you have a thai wife is not the same as visiting,
BUT
when you pick the choice for the Non-O visa in the eVisa system for the thai consulates in the west it says "visiting thai family more than 60 days" for the 90 day Non-O
Perhaps you're correct and there is no choice for it, BUT I'd try that and belive me if it didn't fly they'd tell you in no uncertain terms ๐