@Cha****
&
@Ja***
sadly the problem STARTS with foreigners who will not stand up for themselves when they are within the law at the immigration office
Now whether this is due to you just not wanting to or your thai wife telling you not to who knows :( ).
BUT
I have found (in my many many MANY dealings with immigration offices and officers) If you are within the rules, if you hold your ground, if you don't get angry with them, AND if you just keep pushing that you are able to do what you are trying to do, 9 times out of 10 you can do it
AND
that 10th time you can file a written appeal and get a denial overturned.
One last time, that you as a foreigner don't want to stick up for yourselves is on you. :(