Email the thai consulate in Los Angeles and ask if you can apply for an O-A visa there from New York.
And as far as the New York questions you have my question to you IS
Did you go to the Thai consulate in NYC and read the requirements for the O-A visa on their website?
I ask that because the questions you're asking ARE answered on the website.
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