@Eric ********
I think “allowance” is the wrong mindset but your on the right track. If one person earns the money and controls 100% of it while the other has to ask permission to spend, resentment will eventually build. But giving your partner nothing is just as bad, and that relationship will eventually crash and burn from resentment.
I’m married to a Thai woman five years now, and my two cents is that the most successful marriages I’ve seen are the ones where both partners go all in. You’re no longer two individuals living separate lives. You’re a team, building a future, growing wealth, and enjoying life together.
My wife and I set aside personal spending money for each of us every month. Neither of us has to ask permission to buy something we want. So technically, we’re both on an allowance! 😂