Sadly
@Julane ******
that your friends managed to do this 5+ years ago while anecdotally interesting is totally not at all relevant to the situation as it is today 🙁
All you can do is try..
If you're in the south try Penang (or even Kota Bharu) take the marriage certificate, copies of your husband's passport data page, his entry stamp to thailand, his non-O visa and his year extension.
All they can say is no and then you could get another tourist visa 😕