Sadly the fact you're married to a thai cuts no ice with immigrations when you're trying to come in to the country "free stamp" entry as a tourist, no matter what you tell them you want to do after you get stamped in
That is especially so if you have an extensive entry/stay history on free stamp entries <- which it appears you do have 😕
Why not just getting the 90 day single entry Non-Immigrant Visa based on marriage before you wing your way back here from the thai consulate in the US that serves the state you're in?
That would get you in for 90 days without any issue at all,
Then you could just work on getting the funds in place, waiting the 2 months required for it to 'season' and apply for the yearly extension based on marriage from the immigration office after that
That way you're sure to get in without any issue at all, versus fly in free stamp and hope for the best
You'd want this choice on the eVisa online web-portal when you apply
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