@Bobby *******
you CAN on either the O or the O-A but what you can't do is get the trailing spouse Non-O visa issued inside the country when the other person is on a retirement visa/extension :/
The "trailing spouse to someone on a retirement visa/extension" is the only reason they WON'T issue a 90 day Non-O for inside the country. You get it before you wing your way here.
If one person is getting the O-A before they come their spouse should apply for a 90 day Non-O at that same time
While I don't know for a fact, I doubt they can do this because they're not Malay citizens and as a rule you can't get an O-A from a consulate other than the country your passport comes from or where you hold legal permanent residence)